Fast Track to Greater Self Esteem

It may be that you are still seeing yourself as the child who was last one to get picked for the ball team or the one who everyone snickered at for one reason or another on the worst day of your childhood experience. Maybe your memories are of a parent you could never please or one who always wanted you to meet their expectations rather than allowing you to make your own discoveries about what you wanted to try to accomplish. Maybe you have memories of old tapes playing in your head telling you that you are “stupid”, “fat”, “clumsy”, that get triggered when you are in certain situations. It is possible to learn to let these hateful and painful messages go. Let them dissolve into a place where you no longer pay attention or even remember them.

It’s sometimes hard to let these things go. These images reflected back from other people’s mirrors are damaging to your self esteem. As an adult you can let go of the past, and make choices as to which messages you want to accept about yourself or reject. With practise you can develop great self esteem and confidence. When you do, you will attract people who feel similar about themselves and who will not take any pleasure in causing you or others pain by being mean spirited or unkind. When you are aware of your ability to improve your own self image, you will not want to repeat the mistakes of being insensitive to others. You will be a better, finder and more competent and confident parent to your children.

Remember Eleanor Roosevelt? She said many noteworthy things, but here is the quote I want to share here today.”No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”

The ways:

1. Use positive self talk frequently throughout your day. Before you look in the mirror in the morning smile and take in some healthy energizing deep breaths. Then say, ” I am just right. Everything about me is fine for the person I am today.” Tell yourself this throughout the day regularly at different times until you believe it.   

2. Start giving more positive feedback to those around you. Train yourself to be aware of people’s positive qualities. In conversation, point out one thing you find desirable or positive about a person, a place, or situation you are discussing.

3. Smile more. This actually has a positive physical effect on your own mood, health and wellbeing and it will help everyone around you. Laugh too, as often as you can. It’s good for you.