Finding a Healthy Balance
by Few people admit their life is not in balance, but many of us do rely on crutches from time to time. Here are a few of those common crutches and a plea for us to stand alone.
It must be noted that the same falling action will take place in people whose lives revolve around their spouse. Once that other figure is gone, they topple. They need balance, they need to find themselves.
Workaholics often absorb themselves in work, not because they need the money, but because it is more familiar to them than dealing with family structures. They hide from reality in work. They are afraid of balance.
Some people live in fear and that fear drives them to cling to additions, such as alcoholic, gambling, and even religion. These additions become cycles pulling the person in deeper and deeper. A person with alcoholism feels bad when they wake up sober so continue to drink. A gambler gets desperate when they are loosing and feel they have to replace the loss, which is continually growing. A person who is too devoted to religion becomes more and more fearful that if they back away they will be condemned to hell. These people desperately need balance.
For some people the problem is that their lives are so removed from reality that they have lost touch with nature. Nature is a spiritual force, and many people who live and work in a concrete jungle need that sense of natural spirituality to balance their unnatural world.
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How to find balance is a different matter. For our own mental health, and for the sake of our family and the people we love, we must find a balance in our lives. The best thing is to simply be able to see the problem and admit it. Then we can take steps to correct it, by devoting more time to the areas lacking. Some people will need professional help, while others can recover balance slowly on their own and with the help of their family.
For myself, I realize I must take time to be off the computer, and to reconnect with my family, and have begun efforts to do so. I hope people will ask themselves if there is something they do that is taking them away from doing the things they should be doing.
Taking small steps is best. Trying to change everything at once will not work for most people. Try cutting down gradually.
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Post CommentDeep Blue
On July 6, 2009 at 4:00 am
As it often appears, anyone who wishes to change the world ends up changing nothing while someone who changes himself from within ends up changing the world with him. You have the way of changing the world with your nice ways my friend.
ken bultman
On July 6, 2009 at 4:14 am
Excellent advice. Glad you wrote the piece. Glad I read it.
Darla Cooke
On July 6, 2009 at 7:38 am
Great article and advice. Thanks for sharing.
PR Mace
On July 6, 2009 at 11:44 am
God advice. My problem is balancing work, dance, writing and my life.
Daisy Peasblossom
On July 6, 2009 at 11:54 am
And so…we all walk the razor’s edge. I had to work when my children were small. My solution? I was employed by a daycare, so I enrolled them where I worked. I got a discount, I knew where my kids were and what quality of care they were receiving. Not ideal, but functional.
Lostash
On July 6, 2009 at 4:58 pm
We all juggle such busy lives, but we MUST all make time for whatever makes us most happy!
Ruby Hawk
On July 6, 2009 at 5:19 pm
I agree, I am always out of balance one way or the other and it changes all the time. Work or it’s the kids, sometimes the computer, sometimes the apt,reading, but it’s always something.
lindalulu
On July 6, 2009 at 7:14 pm
Great advice and I agree.
Inna Tysoe
On July 6, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Good one.
Inna