Happiness and Success 5

Children depend on the guidance and foresight of their parents. The discipline they develop while young should help them survive in a competitive world. In many cases, however, parents have their own agenda for their own satisfaction. Training of children may be turned over to schools. If the parents are busy most the time, whatever their children understand as right for them to do will most probably come from a more present environment in school. Will that make them better persons ? Maybe or maybe not. But in case of a failure, the parents are more responsible than their children. Some things cannot be purchased by money. If you have children, it is very important for you to impart to them your experiences and lessons in life in order for them not to make similar mistakes and so that they can make better decisions.

Unfortunately, for some families, children are maltreated not physically. There is an improvement in the present compared to the past when they are beaten up by elders with too much physical torture. Instead of just spanking for mistakes, their fragile bodies are pushed around or dragged even when they are not to blame or are simply innocent. Even the present maltreatment is not justifiable. Children learn from what they see, hear, feel, and do. Yet parents “nag” them. Sharp, offensive words destroy their peace of mind. Perhaps due to the pressures of work, they have to pour their anger at someone. And oftentimes, their children are turned into complaint departments at home.

A negative atmosphere is generated by anxious parents at the expense of their children’s behavioral development. Soon the children become like their parents. If they have been hearing their parents cursing very often, they will develop the habit of saying the same curses even when they grow up. Thus, in offices where there should be professional atmosphere, new hires have difficulties dropping their habit of cursing whenever something goes wrong. Or the habit of quarreling and shouting can be observed in some uncultured groups of people. Parents are responsible for instances of divorce leading to a broken family, a sample prevalent in America and a source of culture shock for their children as well as future generations.

We need to build a society of Positive Thinkers. That means having strong characters with great patience to teach what is right and just, to promote good attitude at all times, to inspire other people towards higher knowledge and understanding. We do not need fault finders or instructors who are too lazy to teach before they start testing if what was taught was actually absorbed or understood. And even if listeners do make mistakes, they should be encouraged to learn from mistakes and then gain the right knowledge and understanding.