How Can I Become a Better Person?

I have no answer to the question I ask my self repeatedly. How can I make my self a better person? Now, for the last ten years I have been with my common law wife. I find that I am a better person now with her, then when we first met. However, at that time I was on the wrong track. I did not love myself because I could not respect myself. It is odd that the only reason I can give for feeling that way is because my wife at that time left me for a sixteen-year-old boy. I must tell you that she was only eighteen and I was twenty-four. As you can tell, I took a hit to my manhood. For the next couple of years I was not the same person that I was before the dark times. To question your past is to question your future. I believe it goes hand and hand. If you put your hand out in front of a spinning fan well you know what’s going to happen. However, if you have say a pole and you stick that instead of your hand, theirs a different out come. The experience is different but you learn the same thing. You only did it wiser. All the bad things that happened to me I would not change a thing. I still go through problems, but I am a better person for them.