How Do You Want to be Remembered?
by What kind of legacy are you planning to leave behind?
Have you ever stopped to think about how you will be remembered, by friends, family, co-workers or even just the people in your neighborhood? I know I would like to be remembered as up beat, happy and helpful. I want to be considered as an all around great person, who could light up a room with my presence. We have no guarantees that this is what will be remembered, but I do know, do one thing wrong, and it will be recalled over and over, long after you have departed this world.
Now I would not go through life wondering what people think of me, but we should always consider the consequences of our actions, for they will be seen and recalled many times through out a life-time. How you treat people, with affect how you are treated. Treat those with respect and show that you are courteous; and in return they should treat you the same. There are of course those who just don’t k now how to give respect, and no matter how often you try, they continue in the same fashion they have been their entire life. Never try to change someone, because you cannot, but you can change the way you deal with that individual.
Treat everyone fairly, because that is how you want to be treated. If what you are doing to others is painful or you are embarrassing them, and you would never want someone to do that to you, then why do it. What goes around; comes around, as the saying goes.
To be considered kind and thoughtful, loving and sweet are great ways to leave a legacy. How does your children see you? Are you their hero, full of energy, and spark; or are they uncomfortable when their friends are around. Are there times that you flat out embarrassed them? As time moves on how will your family, children and grandchildren speak about you, prepare the way today; so that the words spoken tomorrow will be that of greatness, not of pity or shameful acts.
So stop now and think about what kind of “legacy” you want to leave behind?
What type of “mark” would you like to leave on this planet? In your family?
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Post CommentKristal
On February 23, 2009 at 9:34 pm
I agree to an extent.
But, to live one’s life worrying what others will say or think is not the way.
I don’t believe in shame as it stands.
I believe it is a make wrong.
I believe it is us being afraid to express ourselves authentically or afraid that we’ve done something “wrong”.
It’s all about self love, self forgiveness and self compassion.
The realization that all we’ve done or ever do is perfect for our path.
If I worried what each member of my family would think when I acted, I’d be living in a box of fear and total boredom.
I will continue to live my life authentically and I guarantee there will be many times over members of my family will be appalled, outraged and downright pissed.
And that’s OK. They have a right to express themselves authentically too, and I have space for it…mostly.
I trust myself and that is what truly matters.
I’m sure there will be plenty of times when they are truly proud too.
Either way I’ve found not to get attached to reactions.
Being attached to either one can be detrimental to self expression and can drive one off the deep end.
I can’t spend life trying to please everyone. I’ve learned that one for sure.
I’ve learned how to receive their love even when sometimes it may not sound like love lol
I know that they are coming from a space of love and that is what I am open to receiving.
I’ve also learned how to stand up for myself.
Which can be downright terrifying at times but it is very essential.
People can base what they think about you by their own history.
Therefore it can be very mucky and not clear.
They can be judging you based off of their past interactions with other people and therefore their interpretation(s) of your actions are biased.
Such as when a person becomes prejudice about a certain race because they were attacked by a person of that race.
Therefore to base my path on how they feel about my doings, would not be the truth for me; it would be living their truth and neglecting my own.
That’s why it’s best to trust yourself first and foremost.
If you do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, move the energy and decide to change the action or the feeling that accompanies the action.
I see what where you’re coming from and I do believe in treat others as you would like to be treated.
Not a fan of turn the other cheek but I think you already know that about me lol
I love reading your articles.