How Long Healing Takes
by Have you been struggling with a physical, emotional, financial or relationship difficulty for a long time?
A true healer holds more of an investment in wellness than illness. He or she rejoices in getting you out of therapy rather than keeping you in it. Some people in the healing professions depend on continued visits from their patients, so they may unconsciously influence the patient to stay ill for the doctor’s or therapist’s own purposes. While it is rare that a healing professional would consciously or purposely keep a patient longer than he or she needs to stay, many do so without recognizing the underlying dynamic.
Years ago a woman at a seminar reported that she had been doing primal scream therapy for seven years. Finally she felt healthy enough to tell her therapist she was ready to leave therapy. To her surprise, the therapist told her, “You can’t leave now – you’re just getting started.”
Inferior “healers” will tell you that you will never get well. Better healers will tell you that you can or will get better over time. True healers will tell you that the healing you seek is available to you now. What a healer tells you is reflection of the models and expectations you hold. Change your attitude and you will change your prognosis. Who is the real doctor? The mind of the patient.
Begin to examine your beliefs about how long you think healing should take. How long have you been putting up with pain or a situation that is not working? How long have you not had use of a part of your life that you would rather enjoy? What do you think needs to happen before you can feel good? If you answer with any agent outside yourself, you only delay your release. Answer with “My thoughts create my life” and you are very close to the health and happiness you seek and deserve.
In the Talmud, a wise rabbi posed three questions we should all ask ourselves constantly:
- If I am not for myself, who will be for me?
- If I am only for myself, what good am I?
- If not now, when?
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