I Used to Hate Strippers
You should never judge a book by its cover. Or in this case, a stripper by her stiletto.
I used to hate strippers (and models). I hated them for what I thought they were and what I thought I wasn’t. A lot of women hate exotic dancers, for a variety of reasons. They hate them because their men look at them, because they are in better shape than them, because they are more in touch with their sexuality, because they are more confident. I could go on and on.
I was in quite a financial situation about seven years ago, and decided to become a stripper. It may be politically incorrect, but I like the word stripper. I did for seven years, so I can call myself whatever I want. I walked into the club believing every bad thing I had ever heard, and scared that I would become a horrible person.
What I found was a bunch of normal girls with fewer clothes on than at my other job. These girls had homes, children, even husbands, and in some cases, other jobs. They were there for the same reason I was; more money. Sure, there were girls there with drug problems and girls with questionable ethics and self respect….but I’ve worked with girls like that everywhere I ever had a job. They just weren’t in stilettos. Nudity (or partial nudity) becomes “part of the job”, and dancing is an art form. You fall in love with the money, the attention, even the lights. You feel like a goddess when the DJ calls your name and all eyes are on you. The dancers are not there for sexual satisfaction. They are there to express their sexuality, and to be an expression of sexual fantasy.
Women who get angry at their men for going to strip clubs should go with them on couple’s night and see for their selves that it’s not like it is on TV. Sure, there are clubs and girls that will do extras, but if your man is that determined to go elsewhere, he will anyway. He will meet a girl somewhere, or get a friend to hook him up. He can find a shady cab driver that can find him whatever type of girl he wants for less money.
The bottom line is; most strippers are only entertainers. Most real exotic dancers realize that they are not just strippers. The whole word is striptease. The nasty girls come and go in every club, but no more frequently than anyplace else your boyfriend or husband may go.
Think about it mathematically. If a club has 40 girls on shift, about 30 of them (I’m estimating) are legit, so 10 are doing extras of some kind, if not at the club, then after work. The same ratio applies everywhere. If a restaurant has 20 females on shift, wouldn’t it be a fair assumption that 15 of them are legit, leaving 5 that have questionable sexual practices? That’s only 25%.
It doesn’t matter where they work….a girl that will mess with a taken man will do it wherever she meets him. And a man who is going to do you wrong is going to do it anyway. So don’t hate the strippers….besides, the ones that have really made in the game have a habit of chasing off the bad ones.
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User Comments
Kim
On May 22, 2008 at 11:30 am
Wow that really sheds some light on that topic! Wonderful article!!!
CATHY
On May 22, 2008 at 12:26 pm
I NEVER LOOKED AT THINGS QUITE LIKE THAT. THIS ARTICLE REALLY OPENS UP YOUR EYES. THANKS FOR WRITING IT!!!!
MzKiTTyG
On May 22, 2008 at 3:11 pm
u daym skippy!!!!!!! PREACH ON MY SISTA PREACH ON!!!!!! TELL THEM WHAT THEY DONT KNOW…AND WHAT WE KNOW! OMG I WANNA READ MORE ON STRIPPERS!! LMAO! AND I LOVE THE WORD STRIPPER TOOO!! HAHAHAHA
Beth
On May 23, 2008 at 10:23 am
Wow….a stripper that writes.
Theresa (Mom)
On May 29, 2008 at 2:44 pm
I am proud of my daughter. She did what she had to do to take care of her children and did a really good job of raising them with little or no help from anyone,let alone welfare. This is my girl and she said it eloquently. Strippers are people,too-and as far as the men who come to see them,anyone can look! How many of you ladies have gone to a club to see male strippers??? Hmmmm-shoe is on the other foot!
PiXiE
On June 17, 2008 at 9:29 am
This is true-I was a stripper also & alot of women looked down on me because I took my clothes off! I was in the best shape of my life when I danced & I would do it again in a heartbeat!
Chelsea
On November 22, 2008 at 2:23 pm
Sorry, but there are more honest ways to make your money. I know plenty of intelligent and extremely fit and attractive young women (myself included) who aren’t so morally bankrupt that they stoop to the level of stripping. No matter what is said about it, it takes a very damaged person to be able to degrade herself by prancing around like a tramp on stage.
That “job” is NOTHING to brag about – people are disgusted by strippers for good reasons! Most of you have come from broken families and abusive households but you need to overcome that. No one will ever respect you once they learn you are a stripper; they may pretend to but they are truly disgusted. Get a real job.
re: the above
On December 2, 2008 at 2:10 am
morals are silly human constructs made by humans that deny the fact that they are animals. self-rightiousness especially alligned with the word “morals” parallels any other subway crackpot soapboxer… and because of people like you, most strippers *don’t* brag about their job. you miss the point of this entry: trying to increase perspective in a largely narrow-minded world.
Sincerely,
a stripper
Laughing at Chelsea
On January 22, 2009 at 9:57 am
Even though it’s been a while since you posted…have to laugh at you. I worked in corporate treasury for a Fortune 500 company – B.S. with honors and a financial designation after my name. Then my company had to downsize due to the economy…and my specialty was no longer in demand since other companies were doing the same. So instead of using your tax dollars to feed my children I danced at a club on the weekends 400 miles away from my home. That took sacrifice…but if I should find myself in that position again I’ll be sure to contact you for a generous financial contribution since you have all the answers.
Perelandra#Freestrippertips.com
On February 2, 2009 at 3:04 am
Thanks for writing this article! Not all blonds are dumb and not all strippers are promiscuous tweekers! Albeit, some -are- smarter than others.
Chelsea, you are very sad...
On April 5, 2009 at 6:15 am
People often forget that there are shady shady people in EVERY profession. Ironically, I was sexually harassed way more in my office (which was also at a Fortune 500 brokerage company) than I ever was in a strip club. Only at that point, there was no bouncer to throw the guys out and causing an HR scandal would have done more harm than good due to the “good ole’ boy system” that permeates the financial sector. I’ve met way more depressed, drug addicted, coked-out, alcoholic Doctors and Lawyers than I ever did strippers.
Dancers dance for a reason and are typically there by choice. Most people with what you call “respectable” jobs are the most depressed, screwed up people I’ve ever seen…they are caught up in the 9-5 web with only weekends (and whatever vacation the company decides to give them) to have a life. It’s pretty nice to have unlimited earnings potential, the tax benefits of being an independent contractor, the option to choose what day and time to go into work and all the vacation you could ever want, should you decide to take it. Not to mention, they aren’t harped on by little mealy-mouthed bosses about sales targets, quarterly numbers or any of that other corporate busy work BS.
That is what we all would wish for if we could make the perfect job, yet people verbally bludgeon them to death with close minded comments and judgment. Any intelligent person would know that dancing is mainly two things: customer service and sales…the basis for almost any career. I’d rather have a beautiful, confident woman take the time to talk with me and sell me some dances than have some sweet-talking insurance salesman knock on my door and try to trap me into an annuity. Come on now, sheesh.
To: Chelsea
On April 13, 2009 at 7:11 pm
You are clearly one of those constipated women, who know, that their hubby/boyfriend is secretly going to the stripjoints to receive what he does not get at home and that is why you consider us a threat. I am a stripper and a psychologist, and very comfotable with my bth jobs
sw33tfanny
On September 25, 2009 at 12:13 pm
I must heartily disagree with this article. My strong dislike of strippers does not stem from envy. I have 15% body fat and am facially prettier than any stripper. Simply put stripping is not honest work, you are selling the illusion of sex. It is a cope out to site financial difficulty. I am presently in a financial bind, but there are things I will not do. I have a rear end that can stop traffic, but I would not be proud of myself if I shook it in someone’s face for money. The statement that stripping make you feel like a goddess is hilarious.
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