Improve Your Self Esteem
by Some simple tips on improving your self esteem.
All throughout school, I was a wallflower. I was quiet, didn’t have many friends and never stood up in front of the class. I had low self esteem. Eventually I got tired of doing nothing, so I decided to do some research and make a change. No matter what you do, work, school, stay at home mom/dad – these are some great tips that have worked for me and many others.
Step One: Always keep your head and your eyes up.
Find yourself looking at the ground? Make an effort to keep your head up, not looking into the air, but level. Keep the same general rule for your eyes. Don’t focus on the ground ahead of you or your feet, look straight ahead of you.
Step Two: Practice good posture.
Your posture speaks volumes about your confidence. Sit up straight when sitting, and stand up straight when walking. You won’t feel more confident right away, but you’ll appear it. We all know, if you appear weak, people will look at you that way. Give them the image of strength and independence.
Step Three: Make eye contact.
When you are passing people in the street, hallways or grocery store, make eye contact with people around you. It is very important to make eye contact during conversations. Avoiding eye contact with someone shows that you are uncomfortable or hiding something. Let them know you are serious or passionate about your ideas/values/opinions or whatever it may be. Don’t back down.
Step Four: Push yourself farther.
I’m not saying go rob a bank, but volunteer for things you normally wouldn’t. My personal start, was running for Student Council. It’s something I never would have thought of doing, but ended up winning. I really believe it was the turning point of my adult life. I now continue to volunteer for things I never would have considered and find myself capable of more than I would have imagined.
If you’re a stay at home mom, join the PTA or volunteer to lead a Girl Scouts group. If you’re in school, run for a student office or start a club, if that’s too much, start by joining one. At work, take on projects that you know you can do but have always been to quiet to ask about.
Step Five: Make a list
Make a list of all of your strengths, then make a list of all the things you would like to do/try. Refer to them daily, remind yourself of everything you are good at. It’s a way to drill it in to your head that you have more going for you than you realized, an important step in building self esteem. If you need help thinking of things, ask family and friends. I’m sure they will be happy to help you. Also remember to go through the list of things you’ve wanted to do or try, think of reasons you haven’t done them, and eliminate them one by one.
Step Six: Be Patient
You won’t be instantly confident. Re-building your self esteem is a process, so when you have a moment of weakness, don’t give up – reboot. Take another look at your strengths, straighten your posture and carry on with your life.
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