Love starts from the day you are born. You arrive in the world loved by your parents and people around you this is comfort love, this is love you can count on. Now what you are not prepared for is later on in life the love you have to work for, love that is not simple in any way. Love that involves money, hard work and in my experience changing who we are in the first place.

Lets start from the beginning we all have first love, now we are normally to young to know what love is but we think because they are cute or have great hair it must be love! or the fact that are parents do not approve they have to be the one. Now most people when i talk to them about their first love they always start to laugh. Most of them because they have seen a picture on facebook of what they look like now and can not believe what they ever saw in them in the first place. 

Now your second love is the the one when in your late teens early twenties you start to learn just how hard love can be. For me i fell madly in love with this one, he was the one i was planning the wedding out, what are kids would be called even what school they would go to. Now this does not sound to bad does it! but i have to tell you all this planning was in my head of only knowing each other for two months. Foolish, yes i was very foolish he could talk me round anything he wanted and nine times out of ten he would get them. I still have loans i am paying off now while he is no where to be seen. Now when you get to this stage you think god i will learn from these mistakes and never make the same ones again. But do we really? maybe its just me but i fell in love again, older man thought nothing could go wrong even moved to another country to be with him but money always comes in to it. He pretended he had more when i meet him, now you can not fault him on that one because we all do it. We all pretend to be better off when we meet some one new, even if it is spending a months wages on the first date there is always a time some where down the line we want to show off. But what i got was a alcoholic room mate! yes the flat that he said he owned was rented with a room mate. So our love nest that yet again i planned in my head consisted of a alcoholic sitting in the corner scatting his fleas around the place! It was a 100% bachelor pad. So what do i do yet again spend money of course get it cleaned up not that they noticed anything different but it smelled a bit lemony!!!  

So yes i gave up a perfectly good job, my car and my family all because of love and there is still one thing that i ask my self………….. 

Why do we bother falling in love?…….. because we all end up changing who we are and the person that they fell in love within the first place!………….