Marriage Vs. Single Life
Isn’t it funny how you never realize what you really have until it is gone? Once you get married you can easily forget the advantages of being single. I have been married for 4 years and have two children. I am soon to be a single mom.
I have learned that marriage is all about sacrifice and commitment. It has to be mutual though. I am sad at the thought of my marriage ending but happy to finally have my life back. I know what it’s like to be in an unhappy marriage. I know what it is like to live with a controlling spouse. I have learned that being married is about compromising and making decisions together. But what do you do if your spouse refuses to see that and refuses to let you make any decisions? That is something that I miss about being single. I didn’t have to be bossed around.
I encourage you if you are single to embrace it and enjoy it. If you are married I sincerely hope that you are happy. I know one day I will be happily married again but for now I think single life doesn’t look as dreadful as is used to look in the past. I dreaded the thought of staying single until I was 30. I am only 25 now! I married when I was 21. If only I could have realized then how much time I still had for that!
I don’t totally regret my marriage. I wouldn’t have my kids if it weren’t for my marriage. They are so much fun. I have always dreamed having 2 little girls. I have also learned a lot. I learned how to appreciate the little things that I once took for granted.
When you are single, you can do anything you want to do. If you want to travel or try a new career , you have the freedom to do that. If you are a single parent, it’s different. You must think first about your kids and how your decision will affect them. If you are married, you have to consider how your decision will affect your spouse. When you are single, you make all of your own financial decisions. You never have to account to someone else for every penny you spend.
No one can decide for you what is best for you. I recommend that you don’t get married until you know for sure that you are making the right decision. It’s not always easy to know when and if it is right for you. The choice to be single or to marry is an important issue. The choice you make today can forever change your life.
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Single and happy!
On October 1, 2008 at 1:08 pm
I agree that the decision of being single or getting married should be taken seriously. I am happily single and loving it. It gives me freedom that I wouldn’t have in a marriage. In a marriage relationship, I would be answering to another for every decsion I would make. Being single just allows me to feel free to change my career, move to another town, go for vacations and so forth. The only person I have to worry about is me. I don’t want to come across selfish, I have just realized that if I would marry I would have to be 100% committed to serving another and be willing to sacrafice in every area of my life. Decisions would have to be agreed upon by both parties and not just the one. I urge every one out there to make a wise decision when it comes to picking a partner, if marriage is something you want to committ to.
kram1024
On March 22, 2009 at 3:13 am
on the other hand, I see being single as an excuse for being selfish which I see as wrong. There are a massive number of benefits of being married and on top of that all you have to give up is your selfishness and be willing to work with your partner in an unselfish manner for it to work. If you cannot love your spouse, then learn to love him or her as your enemy then as your friend and finally as your spouse so that things can work. That goes for BOTH of you. And by all means, please do not do anything that would violate eachother’s trust. It is way wrong. The whole problem I see in this world is that it no longer loves. The whole reason why we all strive for marriage is because first off we have a need to love and be loved which is not often met without marriage and second to not be alone.
Now lets look at the concept of sex. Even if you are just living with someone of the opposite sex long enough to grow close to them, you will eventually not be able to resist it and probably should marry. This is why there are states that support what is known as common-law marriage. Why should you marry if you are starting to lust for your roommate? Because sex makes a bond that cannot easily be broken without harming the two of them and a very good reason not to separate, yet so many people choose to separate over very stupid reasons such as disagreements. Marriage is a contract and must NOT be broken, divorce is breaking your oath and failure of the marriage. It also has that “piece of self going away” feeling due to the bond from the sex being forced apart.
I know a lot of you here are not very religious, but there is a scripture speaking of a man leaving his mother to be cleaved with is wife and that they shall become one flesh. This is why I say if you do not see how serious marriage is, then do not marry until you do, otherwise, feel free to do so and to become more loving towards your spouse and hopefully have a lot of happy life ahead of you.
Vitus
On September 29, 2009 at 6:21 am
In whatever we do, it is true causes and events happen to everyone, but as Christians, we look forward to get married sometime, someday because we are created to populate the whole world. Being single beyond reasonable time is NOT glory, so every single MUST look out for someone to get hooked in marriage, legally! I give more advice at: http://godblessvitus.blogspot.com
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