Perfect People: What Are They Hiding?

Have you ever seen or known somebody who is living a perfect life in one way, but a total disaster in an other. Do you think that their efforts in one area are purely to hide their deficiency in another, or is it because they focus so much on one thing that they do not have time to focus on the other?

You will see people who place a huge importance on appearances, they are “everything” after all, yet those people will be down right mean and rude to other people, obviously appearances matter more than manners.

My theory is that these people are over compensating.

I have seen people who are massively obese, yet they always take care to wear nice clothes, put on their make up and do their hair, their houses are tidy and immaculate, and so forth. Are they controlling everything else because they cannot control their weight?

I knew a woman who, when confronted with the fact that some money that had gone missing at her work, said “I am a Christian, it wasn’t me.” Christianity came up a lot in this womans life as a reference to her perfection. She was a neat freak, insisted on only wearing the best jewelry and clothing, he hair was always coiffed perfectly high. This always stuck me as odd since Jesus was all about being humble. I know what she was compensating for, what she was trying to hide, it was horrible and I shall not mention it here.

We all know somebody who puts on a show to the world, but is hiding something. Why do some people need so much order in their life that anything out of place troubles them so much?

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Take this story. A woman I know vacations every year in Arizona, she described the place to me. It was a perfect place for parking your motor home. So wonderful that they have a parking attendant, who would park your RV for you. By the way, your RV had to be the newer type, you know, the massive ones. Anyhow the parking attendant would park your vehicle right along side the others then he would get out and stand at the end of the row to make sure the bumpers were lined up exactly even, no one ahead or behind the others. In between the RV’s there was the exact same amount of space, complete with a picnic table and identical fake plant. It was her perfect world. A world of uniformity and perfection.

It would have been my nightmare of sterility and boredom!

No word of a lie, this womans husband washes their car after every trip, even if its just to the market. He broke his arm once, but still had to clean the windows weekly on their home. No surprise they live in a condo unit with all kinds of rules that everything must more or less be the same.

Why?

I have heard that this woman is compensating for being sterile, that is to say, she cannot have children. Whether or not this is the reason why she puts on such a show that everything else is perfect, I do not know. But it is true that she cannot have children, in fact she is beyond child baring years. Perhaps having children forces some people to lighten up, everything cannot be in its exact spot when you have kids running around, playing, and moving things… or can it?

Some parents are so anal they run their house like the military and children have to keep their rooms as sterile as hospital rooms.

Why do people need rules and sterility? What are they trying to cover? What forces them to need such order and uniformity?

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Others cannot help but stand out, they are different. They are freaks, they cannot fit in, some never did try, some never understood why they should. In many ways, and it may be because I never could fit in myself, that I find these odd-balls more honest. They are not putting on a show of perfectionism in appearance, or wealth, in cleanliness, or Godliness. They are who they are and that is that.

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