Real Self Esteem is Not Judged on Your Appearance

Contrary to your thinking, self esteem has nothing to do with your physical, outer appearance.

It has nothing to do with your green or blue eyes, your blonde or brunette hair, your slim and slender body, your well-manicured nails or even your stylish shoes and clothing.

Let’s face it, real clear cut self esteem comes from within, from deep within. And, let me add to that, we all must have real, authentic high self esteem.

The level of your self esteem is determined on how valued you felt as a child; how loved you felt by your parents, how valued you felt by your friends, how you were treated at school by your teachers, and as you grew into adulthood, how your work relationships were with your co-workers and colleagues.

If you have low self esteem, and you cover it up by your physical appearance in any way, it might interest you to know, if you haven’t realised yourself already, that that physical appearance is short-lived.

Why?

Because your physical appearance does not affect your behaviour and thoughts, it does not affect how you feel about yourself and does not alter your values in the long run.

The only way you can feel more attractive is by having real positive self esteem.

Regrettably, the social order in this day and age has learned to take full advantage of people who have low self-esteem. They are bombarded with advertising selling them the concept that by dressing and looking a certain way their lives will immediately and dramatically improve.

That concept may be true. But the hard fact is, that concept, those feelings of dramatic improvements are short-lived.

It is imperative that you have inner self esteem, and stop hoping that what you wear and the way you look will do the job for you.

Here are three reasons why inner self esteem so important:

• It is your inner self esteem that will affect your self-image. Your inner world reflects your outer world, not the other way round.
• The difference between you being successful or being a failure is relevant to the level of your self esteem, not your exterior.
• Your potential to achieve your desires is directly related to your self esteem, and not your outer form.

Having low self esteem will create a poor self-image. Your outer physical appearance will do very little, in the long term, to change how you feel inside.

It adds up to this: Inevitably, you are what you are inside.

It is your self esteem that will enable you to look and feel your best.

When you have real positive self esteem, you will feel pleased and comfortable with your appearance; you will feel great as you are. You won’t feel that you need to hide behind a ‘make-believe’ you.

With real and genuine self esteem, you will feel awesome by being who you are as opposed to how you look.