Self Emancipation
by Setting oneself free from feeling deprived of her right to decide and live life in ways where she is comfortable.
We are always responsible for our own decision no matter if we had been influenced or not.
There are people who were born to be pleased and the others were born to please. There are also some sort of chains between these two.
What will happen when a pleas er gets tired and would not want to continue anymore. That is what we call the exhaustion stage wherein , all throughout the experience which could be considered as the learning curve, the learner finally reached the level of being a learned. Sometimes it takes just a short time and sometimes it takes a bit longer depending on the emotional capacity and intelligence of the learner or the person undergoing the process.
Most people who identify themselves as please rs, are those who had been through alot of pain and they are simply doing their best to help out others, so they would not have to undergo the painful process which she had undergone or still undergoing. It is basically the domination of the superego.
Once exhaustion stage is reached, pleasing would then cease, leaving the person with a numb emotion, which cannot be identified whether it’s a trauma from the painful and stressful experience or anger.
Everything would be clear once the person managed to hibernate and be detached from the stressful environment, just to clear the air until everything is calm again.
There is no exact pattern of signs, as each person has different coping mechanism and different level of emotional tolerance.
The best way to make the whole learning process a success is change of milieu or environment. That would then give a breathing space and the start of a new life as a more emotionally matured, sensible and responsible person.
It is a good start for SELF EMANCIPATION as this time it is no longer pleasing which dominates the person’s world but it is in giving her own self some credit, it is time to be pleased.
Starting a new life is the beginning of the healing process.
Loving ourselves means setting us free from the chain, we don’t need other people’s approval to be happy and be free.
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