Surviving an Unfair Life

“How unfair!” How many times in your entire life have you uttered these two words? Chances are you utter them a couple of times daily. In a world where happiness is measured by money and success, it is only imperative that you feel the unfairness of life. A less deserving collegue getting a promotion, a friend getting a better car than you can afford or your relative winning a big sweepstake, examples of unfairness are abound in everyday life. Social and peer pressures work incognito within your body to genetate the by product:tension followed by the subsequent cardiac problems. So how do you deal with an unfair life then? The easiest way would be labeling yourself as a loser and sing along with Beck, “I m a loser baby, why don’t you kill me.” However the challenge would be to win in an unfair life. To survive and beat the rest in this race, while still running on your own terms.

1.       Living for the self:

Most of the problems in the “unfair” in life are due to comparison. Over the years, economists and policy makers have cleaverly incorporated competition into the system of everyday life. Competition starts right from the day the baby is born. How early did he learn to speak, learn to walk or even get about his things himself define the brightness quotient of the poor little thing. Competition then spills out to the school and then to the job and goes on till the time when you struggle to live longer than your peers.

The easiest way to win in an unfarir life is to get the adjective away from life. Delete it. Life is just life-not fair, neither unfair. It’s just plain life. And as soon as you do that you will be able to feel peace. Living a life just for yourself. Doing soemthingn because you felt like doing it and not because everyone else is doing it. Bill Gates started Microsoft when no one was sure about how the IT industry would shape up. In a world dominated by hip hop and rap music, Mark Knopfler’s guitar still inspires awe. Life is unfair because we have been trained to live for others and not for ourselves. Learn to be different from the crowsd.

2.       Living for the others:

When I say living for others, it’s not what I advised against doignin in the paragarah above. Living for others means helping others. If you have been able to get out of the “unfair” paradigm, help others to live a better life. An establishment set up over thosusands of years cannot be broken in a day or a decade for that matter. Help others who are not even as previledged as you are. Start measuring success not by the amount of money you have made but by the number of people you have helped.

Volunteer for organizations, help depressed friends, work with orphans and elders or even offer community service. But the point is go out there and work for others regularly. I know of people who go and touch an orphan and boast about it for a decade. But lets be fair here. If you want to be happy, help others.

Accordign to a local saying, “Troubles seem to reduce when you share them, and happiness increases when you share it.”

If you have been worried about life and it’s unfair practices, and if you have taken time to reach this line, it means you have understood my point. At least you tried. So instead of cribbing about what you do not have, it’s time to go out there and share what you have. Measure happiness by the amount of happiness you have spread and not the amount of money you have spent. Money is better left out of the happiness equation.