What was the Happiest Day of your Life? Was it the day you got married? Was it the day your child was born? If you answered either of these, think again. Explore a new way of looking at lifes happiest times.
You have undoubtedly heard people say things like “The day I get married will be the happiest day of my life.” or “When my child was born, that was the happiest day of my life.” Have you ever stopped to wonder about these comments? Have you ever caught yourself saying either one? I often wonder if people just say these things out of habit, like congratulating people for having a baby, rather than waiting a few years and congratulating them when the kid grows up into a well adjusted adult. I wonder just how sad a life is, if the persons most happiest day is the day that was supposed to start something big, either a marriage, or a life. What happened after that one day?
A life should not be limited to only one “Happiest” day.
The Day I Got Married
People, especially women, look forward to their wedding day. Often they do so before they even are in a relationship. They call it their “big day”. They plan for it, in every detail, every moment, stressing out for months, sometimes even years, to make it perfect. A one day event that they later call “the happiest day of their lives”.
Granted a persons wedding day should be happy, but by referring to it as the “happiest day” sort of demeans all the following days. Shouldn’t your first wedding anniversary be one of the happiest days? Or what about the fiftieth? Shouldn’t the marriage itself be filled with so many happy days, that you cannot pick one and set it above the others?
The Day My Child was Born
“The day you were born was the happiest day of my life.”. This is said by millions of parents to their children every day, and with the best intentions. Think if it from the child’s view point. The implication is that every day after that day of explicit pain of them leaving your womb, has been a down hill journey. That nothing they do, or have done, has made you extremely happy since that day.
What about the day they learned to walk, their first word, their first day at school, or their graduations. All these moments should be happy days.
Looking at Your Life
When you look at your life, and are asked “What is the happiest day?” you should not be able to answer it with just one day, one moment. You should stand proud and say “Every day is happy.”. You should be able to say that you have had so many happy days you cannot pin point one above the other. You should be proud that you do not have only one Happiest Day, you have many.
Maybe one day started a thousand other happy days, but that day alone should not be considered the “Happiest” day. Remember our lives are too long to only have one truly happy day. Make sure to try to make every day ONE of your happiest days, and be sure to have lots of happy days.