The Reality of Premarital and Extra-marital Sex.

They used to say, “everyone’s doing it”, but somewhere along the line that tune changed a bit because people started to learn the cold, hard facts about pre- and extra-marital sex. Fact is, while it is entirely possible that no consequences whatsoever will result from casual sex, the sobering reality is that most of the time there is a consequence, even if only a psychological one. We all know the possible physical penalties of this type of sexual activity, such as AIDS, HIV, Herpes, certain types of cancers, other Venereal diseases, and of course, pregnancy, but still people are indulging in dangerous sexual activities, and it’s happening at younger and younger ages.

Now teachers want to bring “safe sex” curriculum into elementary schools because girls and boys as young as age eleven are now starting to experiment with sex. When I was that age little girls were still playing hop-scotch and jump rope, and little boys were trying to maim each other on the ball field. I understand the need for the teaching of our children because the sexual stimulus is out there reaching the youngest generation like never before, but I cannot see the practical need for introducing children only to condoms when it has been proven that condoms are not 100% effective in preventing the passage of fluids from one person to another.

What is wrong with teaching kids to just say “no” to sex? Will the word, “no” cause them to develop horrible diseases that children should never have? Will it cause them to become un-wed Mothers when they are still too young to throw away Barbie? Will the word “no” result in abortions that not only take the life of the unborn but also have the potential of destroying the young woman’s fertility forever? Will the word “no” psychologically scar a girl for life and keep her from indulging in a potentially beautiful sexual relationship later on? It is quite obvious that there is a deep need for some revising in our current idea of sex education.

Teenagers need to be taught all the possible choices that are available to them during their informative years. We are teaching them that sex is okay as long as you use a condom, but we neglect to tell them the whole truth about condoms and we woefully neglect to teach them that it’s okay to wait too. Yes, I know there are ad campaigns on television that tell kids that they should wait because they’re worth it, but being worth the wait is not all there is to sex, there is also a morality aspect to it that needs to be addressed, and that is not being done.

Kids need to be taught moral values, those things do not just magically appear on their own. If we don’t teach them the whole truth, about sex, about love, about life and its consequences, about God and His teachings about sex, but just tell them to use condoms, we are doing them a great disservice. Basically we are telling kids that they are not worthwhile enough to be taught good and constructive values, only the politically correct agenda, and that is inconceivable. It is also inconceivable to not teach our children to remain faithful to one spouse, and avoid straying into extra-marital affairs. Kids see this kind of thing all the time on day-time TV but where do they get to see morality in action? Where do they get to experience a whole family system, with fidelity between spouses? Hopefully by the examples of their parents, but in this day and age that is not what it used to be.

The fact is, marriage has not changed, only the people have, and when morality changes for the worse rather than the better it takes children with it, until there is nothing left innocent in society at all. Sex has not changed, only the way we look at it. Abortion has not changed, only now it is seen differently than it used to be. Marital fidelity has not changed either, only it takes a back seat to doing whatever gives you pleasure for that moment. We desperately need to get back to our roots where people fell in love, then got married, THEN had sex. That’s the way to do it right, and it is the lasting way to a happy, healthy marriage.