Things Won’t be Easier, But They Will be Better

Sometimes, the whole world seems to be crashing down on you at once.  I don’t know why it happens but it just seems that when one thing goes wrong, it all does.  I wish there was a supernatural reason that could explain this phenomena, but the best I can do is try to break it down rationally.

I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.  You can call it fate, or destiny, or whatever you want to call it but it’s definitely out there and it happens everyday.  Am I saying that we have no control over our destiny? No.  I think our fate and our decisions are intertwined.  We don’t make decisions for no reason.  We make them because they’re leading us down the path we’re supposed to take in life.  Even when we make the “wrong” decisions in our lives, there’s a reason for them.  Think of something “stupid” you’ve done in your life.  Now it might not seem crystal clear, but if you try really hard, when thinking of the consequences of this action, something somewhat good, or at least revealing came out of it.

While I’m not going to get personal here, I will say that last night, I found out something devastating about someone I’ve known and loved for many years.  On the surface, it was one of the worst nights of my life.  I haven’t felt that bad in a long time.  After a night of sleep, (even if it was restless, it still made things clearer in the morning) I realized the only way I’d be able to get through this would be if I thought about all amazing things I have in my life and how lucky I truly am.  I have been blessed with health, happiness and so much love that I could never measure it.  Last night, my life changed forever, and while at first sight, I thought it was for the worst, but it turns out ignorance is not bliss.  Sometimes things need to be put out in the open if we’re ever going to be able to move on along our path to happiness.  I know that sounds extremely cliche, but happiness doesn’t mean one thing.  We all have our own definition of happiness and need to find out what it is for ourselves.

Another thing I hate is when people say “life sucks”.  If we live our whole lives with that attitude, we’ll never be able to see the good in our lives, the everyday miracles that make it not “suck”.  Sure, parts of it may suck, but we have to take it as a whole and realize that through the rough patches, there will be parts that are more than worth it.

Simple, really corny things like a walk on the beach, or laughing so hard your stomach literally hurts, that’s what we need to be thankful for.  For every tear we cry, we need to be able to laugh twice as much.  The most important thing to remember is that eventually things will get better and no matter how bad things are, there’s always someone worse off.