The Key to Happiness
by We all hold the key to happiness. We can choose to accept it or disregard happiness and choose anger, hate, guilt, hostility, and lead miserable lives. It’s up to each one of us.
Forgiveness is the key to all happiness and peace of mind. Many people miss the point of forgiveness. It’s not enough to forgive someone for a wrong they did to you. You have to take it much further and forgive yourself for your judgment of that person. There are 360 degrees of everything that exists and unless you have studied every angle there is no possible way you can have the slightest idea of the cause for this person’s actions.
Don’t worry about the things that happened in the past and don’t spend your time worrying about what may happen in the future. The past is the past and has no relevance to the future. The present is where you are at this moment. Learn to think of the future as the extension of this moment.
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Love is where the power is. Once you have tapped into it, you have joined up with the universal energy force. With that power nothing is impossible. Some people call it God. It doesn’t mean your life will be free from adversity, and it doesn’t mean praying will take away your tribulations. It means that you will be able to accept life as it happens and rise to the challenge. Thinking loving forgiving thoughts in the times of trouble is never easy. But you can let go of feelings of negativity and unloveliness unless you find value in them. You can let go of any feeling. You can choose anger, guilt, or love. It’s up to you.
We’re living in a world where it’s hard to practice unconditional love, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do it. We are not here to judge others by our personal beliefs. We are here to see each person as a loving individual and accepting them warts and all. None of us are perfect nor apt to be. We all have our own warts. Two rules to live by are: Choose peace over conflict. Choose love rather than fear.
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When we meet another person we should look at them with out hearts. We should seek their innocence not their guilt, their beauty not their unloveliness. But don’t hide your true feelings and bottle them up inside. Yell and scream if you must. Deal with the truth and only the truth. Have no truck with falsehoods. If you are full of hate and anger get it out. That doesn’t mean to take it out on others. It means admitting the whole truth to yourself. Don’t deny any truth no matter ugly it is. Talk it out to a trusted friend or a counsellor. Dispose of the rubbish inside of you and replace it with peace and love. The process means work and a revamping of your life but it will bring peace and happiness.
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Post CommentAlmaG
On November 9, 2009 at 5:54 am
Wow! This is an excellent article but may I add that another key to happiness is a pure and loving heart ^_^
svishnugopal
On November 9, 2009 at 5:59 am
the keys you have spoke about are simply superb..nice pictures too.. thanks..
Themax
On November 9, 2009 at 6:20 am
ohhh Ruby..Thanks love to read the way you explained those beautiful keys and thanks for sharing
Snooky
On November 9, 2009 at 6:28 am
You got it. Life is too short and too precious too hold grudges and ill will. And only eats away at you bit by bitter bit
This article is a bouquet of roses
wonder
On November 9, 2009 at 7:00 am
Everything mentioned is not easy, but the faster one learns the better.Thanks.
Teves
On November 9, 2009 at 7:13 am
Well written…
MMK
On November 9, 2009 at 7:42 am
I don’t necessarily agree with you but I enjoyed reading your article.
If someone completely destroyed your life as a kid and teenager and you lost everything you had, you didn’t have a place to live as a consequence of their actions and kept chasing you to destroy you and your family, would you forgive? I think only people who go through similar situations can actually answer.
athena goodlight
On November 9, 2009 at 7:42 am
Thank you for the inspiring words. the hardest part is practicing unconditional love. When we learn to forgive, we experience a different level of happiness, indeed.
Christine Ramsay
On November 9, 2009 at 7:49 am
An inspirational write. You are quite right we should all forgive and look for the good in others, even though it is not always easy. Well done.
Christine
Aiyanna
On November 9, 2009 at 8:04 am
Thank you so much Ruby, its so well put…
Netty net
On November 9, 2009 at 8:16 am
Well written.
chitragopi
On November 9, 2009 at 8:45 am
Truly inspiring. They way to happiness is as simple. But most of us don’t realise it.
Jane Jane
On November 9, 2009 at 8:56 am
nice message here. thanks and I do agree.
Jenny Heart
On November 9, 2009 at 8:57 am
Perfectly said! Loved it!
Johanny Lisbeth
On November 9, 2009 at 9:20 am
Wow! simply amazing Ruby, as always
I had to read this at least twice.
Frances Lawrence
On November 9, 2009 at 10:03 am
Excellent advice and very well written. Sadly some people don’t appreciate happiness until they have lost it.
Remmyramesh
On November 9, 2009 at 10:29 am
Very true!! The world would certainly be a better place when people learn how to seek happiness!! Well written Ruby..
Westbrook
On November 9, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Great advice Ruby, but it isn’t a “one size fits all.” You seem to be a good and loving person, so I can understand where you are coming from, but attitudes, feelings and abilities are the result of so many factors in life. For example, a very young teenager who has been thrown out in the cold of winter with no care whether she/he survives by a drunken father or mother and is forced to find warmth in abandoned cars in sub-zero whether and can only steal food to keep from starving has limited to no abilities to think as you have advised. I agree that if people could all think in a rational manner, life could possibly be much better for all of us. I even preach that “What we think we are, all the time, is what we are,” which is an attempt to get people to think about their actions and behavior, but I realize we each see the world through our own little pinpoint hole and unless we walk in the shoes of others, it is very utopian thinking to expect everyone to see the world as we do.
Westbrook
On November 9, 2009 at 12:17 pm
Before I get negative comments, I know I made a mistake above. I meant to say “weather” not “whether.”
Borneon
On November 9, 2009 at 12:28 pm
Happiness can be different to each individual but it is always nice to a guidelines like this articles. It’s food for the soul.
Karen Gross
On November 9, 2009 at 2:31 pm
Great piece Ruby. I also don’t agree with you theologically, but you have beautifully described the key to happiness — forgiveness and acceptance.
To MMK and Westbrook: you are the ones whose lives can be changed the most by embrasing forgiveness. Forgiving someone who has hurt you does not negate the fact that what they did to you was very wrong and that you have suffered as a result. Forgiving is to free you from a life of bitterness and resentment. Refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting the person who hurt you to fall over dead.
You can’t change the past. You can’t force anyone to apologize or to make anything up to you. All you can change is yourself. Choose today to cut the rope of unforgiveness which is keeping you tied to the past and set yourself free.
I know that I don’t know your circumstances, but you don’t know mine. I can tell you from experience that you can’t function as an adult if you are still living in the pain of your childhood.
Lex92
On November 9, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Great read Ruby I really liked it
Shirley Shuler
On November 9, 2009 at 4:53 pm
So very true, Ruby, To forgive is to free yourself of the anger and bitterness that can eat away at a persons very soul.
clay hurtubise
On November 9, 2009 at 6:44 pm
I had the key, but it fell over-board while kayaking.
Nice piece with a nice strong message.
Thanks,
clay
Ruby Hawk
On November 9, 2009 at 6:55 pm
Thank you my dear friends, I appreciate every comment. You are the best.
MMk, Westbrook and Karan, All of you are right. that is exactly what I was pointing our. We can’t know what the other person has suffered. That is why we must forgive them their mistakes. We don’t know what they have lived through. That doesn’t mean we should overlook their crimes. If we know someone is commiting a crime against us or anyone else we should turn them in. We don’t forgive the crime. We forgive the person. I have not lived a trouble free life. I have had to work very hard at forgiving the wrongs done to me. I don’t forgive the wrong but I forgive the person.
Tanya Wallace
On November 9, 2009 at 6:59 pm
Now this is one article everyone on the planet should read!You all all to right when it comes to forgiveness and clearing out the rubbish within!Brilliant work as always Ruby!!
Jane Benitez
On November 9, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Absolutely beautiful article and so well written. A grudge is a horrible thing and forgiveness can offer individuals such peace. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your words of wisdom.
Eunice Tan
On November 10, 2009 at 1:33 am
I agree forgiveness (and self peace) are keys to happiness. Great article
Hansika
On November 10, 2009 at 6:31 am
thanks for the post
Dee Gold
On November 10, 2009 at 8:20 am
inspiring
papaleng
On November 10, 2009 at 11:41 am
well-written and very inspiring!
lillyrose
On November 10, 2009 at 3:26 pm
I see why you felt you had to write a second piece to this and I can understand that when people have been wronged its hard to forgive but you must try to forget.
SharifaMcFarlane
On November 10, 2009 at 11:02 pm
Sometimes when you don`t forgive , you end up doing something that`s as bad as what the person did to you.
You return the favor to them but what type of person have you then become?
Is it possible to apply justice without vengeance?
SharifaMcFarlane
On November 10, 2009 at 11:02 pm
Sometimes when you don`t forgive , you end up doing something that`s as bad as what the person did to you.
You return the favor to them but then, what type of person have you become?
Is it possible to apply justice without vengeance?
PR Mace
On November 11, 2009 at 2:53 pm
Ruby you are a wise women with a loving heart. This piece was an inspiration. Sorry I am so far behind, for the last several day I have had problems pulling up posts or posting my own stories. The problem seems to be corrected. Let me know of any of your posts I may I missed.
Always you friend in writing, Pam
Leonardo da Vinci E.
On November 12, 2009 at 1:17 pm
There are different ways to express this quality we call Love;Sometimes just being able to let someone pass in peace and in quiet is the most beautiful expression of them all.
CRYSTAL EVANS
On November 13, 2009 at 3:49 pm
great piece ruby..i do believe in forgiveness but sometimes the enormity and viciousness of the infraction can make someone rethink why would a n indvidual subject another human being to that pain. i just simple tell myself that the person who hurts me is not of my lower consciouness. he does not have the inner connections or appreciations that i have. i forgive him on the stance that he does not know better and he probably will never
it does nto negate what he has done but it does give me peace of mind and the courage to let go. often time holding on to the ones that hurt us like holding a burning ember that u want to throw at the person but you keep it in your hand and you are the only one getting burn
majority of the people that hurt us in life, do not care and the other half probably does not know.
i have one life to live so i will not spend my time allowing someone in my heart that i do not wantthier while they are somewhere living it up.
sometimes why people hesistate to forgive it is because dey do not want to forget the pain. they hope that the deities do not forget ..they think if they become happy again. god will forget and then their pain will never be avenged.
great article ruby
Matthew D.
On November 14, 2009 at 11:36 am
Wow just sinks in your heart and makes you feel different right after reading this. Amazing 11/10
CutestPrincess
On November 29, 2009 at 2:05 am
very inspiring message… i learned something new!