10 Characteristics of Good, Unbroken Men
by So often we hear about the broken men in our society, but rarely do we hear about the unbroken, good men who, in spite of all the trials and tribulations they have endured in life, bring a wealth of love and happiness to others around them. This article is a small testimonial to those brothers.
We always read/hear about the damaged and broken men in our society and families, but rarely do we highlight the men who, in spite of their past mistakes, trials and tribulations, choose to love freely and live their lives with integrity; conscientious of the rights, needs and boundaries of others.
I’m talking about men like my father and many of my brothers; men whom I have loved in my past and been befriended by platonically. The men who taught me how to identify healthy and self-less characteristic traits in men. These men taught me that there was no weakness in admitting to mistakes and short-comings, but weakness in hanging on to the past and allowing it to infect the future. Men who taught me how to love myself first so that I could love others.
They taught me that no woman can ever emasculate a truly good man because a truly good man knows that his integrity, manhood and dignity are not tools that can be broken, they are the essence of his being. That’s why unbroken men are never broken by bad relationships. They are made wiser and stronger.
The “blue-collar” brothers that we fail to notice due to their occupations and addresses, looks, style of dress get it from both ends of the spectrum and I can imagine that must be frustrating. These men are our mail carriers, sanitation men, restaurant managers, truck drivers, policemen, firemen, repairmen, teachers, delivery men and our nation’s military servicemen. They may not “glitter” but if some of us gave them a chance, they just might blossom for us. You might be surprised at how good of time you could have with one of them by doing the simple things. And those “simple” things will (I promise you) lead to much, much more. They always do, especially when the love is true. These are some of the good brothers out here who put their noses to the grind every day; take care of their families, their children (and some that aren’t theirs) and their communities. They are not prevaricators.
No, these good brothers will not allow us to use them or make them feel like they owe us simply because we have been hurt, used or beat down by other brothers. They are not members of any underground societies. They have not used or hurt us and they will not be made to pay dues they never owed. You will either trust and let them love you or you won’t. They are not afraid to walk away…and stay away.
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Post CommentKescey
On February 14, 2009 at 3:26 pm
Thank you for that! Sounds a lot like my man. I am glad to know that you thought this was important to include. It gives us hope!
cjniya
On November 12, 2009 at 8:56 am
When we see the tramps with ugly out-looking on the corner of the road, what will be your reaction? I think most of us would make space for these tramps or we would rather like detouring in order to keep a certain distance from them than walking pass them directly. We are always cheated by our eyes. We feel sick towards these tramps not because they are bad men but because they are smelly and ugly.
I used to be the one who would detour for the tramps and thought they are all lazy ugly bad person. And I thought they would eat the tramp cats and dogs if they could not find anything to eat. But one day something changed my mind. That was a cold night, I went back home late. As a single woman walking on the dark cold street, I stepped up my vigilance. Suddenly I heard some whisper from the dark deep lane. If I were the original New Yorker, I might make up my pace and leave there. But as I come from New Jersey, I walked toward the source of the sound. Then I saw a tramp companied with several cats and dogs. He gave these little animal food and love. It seems like a picture from heaven, everything was in a harmony in that dark lane. Then I found that I knew that tramp, he was always sitting on the corner in front of my company and every time I saw him, I suspected that he was an unknown murderer.
Maybe he is a good person, at least he treats these animal well. The real kind-hearted person might not always wear the rubber wristbands which have the words “Animal Protection” on them, but they would treat animal or other people as well as they could. Never judge others by their appearance.
fred
On February 2, 2010 at 9:20 am
hi ! second floor,it is only your personal views! and you only see one of so many tramps!!
unknown
On April 16, 2010 at 8:26 am
Man like that do exist, i\’m one of them. The road to to become this man is so hard that most man coward away from it.
I come from a south american family, I was a pain as a kid, i grew up with discipline from my parents, i survived cancer (leukemia) while i was still in high school (officially i\’m considered Cured), I was a reject in my high school years, i got to college, had my first girlfriend who eventually broke my heart ( enjoyed the experience of dating her and made me grow emotianally stable ), during my college i read a lot of psychology book and during my high school years too simply to understand the world around me ( developped empathy for others )….To be continued
Hope this serves as an example that if you want to be a man Roberts Frost advice \” I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. \”
I always followed my sense of what was right.