10 Things Every Man Should Know

1)You are not defined by your wife or girlfriend, but by how you treat her.

Never strike her the excuse of I just saw red and I didn’t know what I was doing is lie. You never seem to get that angry at someone who you know you cannot over power. Always treat her as a queen if you do not feel that she deserves such treatment than maybe she is not the one for you.

 2)It is your responsibility to make sure your children are cared for.

As a man with no one but yourself to take care of it was fine to be a bum. As soon as you are a father to be you need a job. Your life is not your own anymore, it was a choice you made. It does not matter what your father did it only matters what your child’s father does. First you need a job then you need a budget, when you have secured a safe place for child food to feed it, someone to care for it only then can you think of buying anything fun. It unacceptable for you child to be raise by the state.

3)Pull up your pants!

Nobody wants to see your underwear. This is a fashion that started in prisons, it signified that the wearer of the those pants was someone’s sexual property. I hoped it would pass soon after it started but it has been nearly twenty years. If a prospective employer sees you sporting this fashion their opinion of you has just gone down. There is enough going against a young man these days do not add strikes against yourself.

4)The world does not owe you a thing.

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Society should not have to make sure you are housed fed or clothed. How and where you were brought up has nothing to do with it. If you were oppressed, abused, or mistreated I do pity you but I do not owe you a thing. I did not do it. The cold hard fact is that everyone is given their lot in life and we do what we can with it. Feeling sorry for myself has never fed me and will not feed you. If you do not like you situation then change it.

5)There is no person on this earth that you can not learn something from, and no person that you could not teach something to.

6)Believe in something.

Decide what you value in life, what you will honor and stick to it. It will not be the same for everyone, and it will change threw out the years but set your moral compass and fallow it.

7)You are not your father.

 I touched on this in number 2 it needs to be defined more. Good or bad he was your father, you can be like him or not it is up to you. Some would be proud to be just like their father some would consider their lives a great failure if they had anything in common with him. Most like me are somewhere in the middle. Take what you find good and emulate it take what do not and use it as guide.

8)Find heroes and mentors.

No one person is good at everything, but you can be good at many. If you feel that you need to be a better father emulate the best father you know. If you need to be more financially successful emulate successful men. Most men will share knowledge with a young man who asks him with respect.

9)Create something.

It is good for the soul. Build, sculpt, write. Few men have as much satisfaction at the end of the day as a mason who can look back at a wall he has just built. Leave your mark on this earth somehow. I do not mean vandalizing someone else’s mark.

10)Do not go along with crowd.

Think for yourself and make your own decisions, if to many people agree with one thing it is very rarely a good thing.