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Are Jamaican Men Insecure?

Jamaican men are jealous because they are afraid of losing their women who they see as extensions of themselves. Once a woman has a relationship with a man they are viewed as one within the society, the wife becomes an extension of the husband.

 

                                                              Are Jamaican men insecure?

 

         I was browsing on line for some inspirations to this topic before I wrote it. I came across many Yahoo and Wiki questions on the self assurance, confidence and esteem of Jamaican men. I decided that I will look at the factors behind the insecure and jealous nature of some Jamaican men.

Jamaican men were socialized to believe that when his spouse is dedicated and faithful to him that it is a sign of genuine masculine maturity (in my native tongue “him a the man a yard”). But this is simply one side to the equation as many boys are inculcated to believe largely by social inference that a man’s personality and character principles are not sufficient to get a woman furthermore maintain a relationship. The boys are taught that they need money in order to get a woman. They are indoctrinated to believe that without pecuniary influences a woman will not be interested in them. Most men who are financially well off continue to cement this ideology based on the numerous females that they copulate with and have relations with as oppose to their less financially viable lower class counterparts. Men who have money have a lot of girls while the poor man has one single spouse or an occasional sex partner that comes around only when he has money. Some less wealthy men have to empty their pockets for a single night of sexual intercourse with a woman. Young men are encouraged to pursue wealth, materialism and superiority so that women will flock them. Women are encouraged to invest in their images to get a man while boys are taught to invest in their abilities and hustle to get a woman.

Women also contribute to this notion. Young girls are taught that a man’s value is determined by the depth of his pocket and his material possession. Women often insult men by insinuating or blatantly telling them that they have fallen short on satisfying the financial needs of the family or union. Young women who chose partners that are less than ideal often face opposition from family members and outright disapproval from society for giving her body to a broke “worthless boy”.  Women are very intolerant of unfavorable behavior from less than ideal partners but will stand for abuse and misconducts from wealthy men.

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  1. seksijerk

    On December 19, 2009 at 2:41 pm


    phhew… given the social economical state of jamaica as mentioned in your article, neither men or women can be blamed for their behavior towards each other, they are just victims of the grim scenario for which the government should be held responsible.

  2. djnevi

    On December 20, 2009 at 9:46 am


    very strong points with factual scenarios about jamaican men.very interesting article

  3. MOHAMED AYOUB

    On December 20, 2009 at 8:22 pm


    THIS ISSUE IS NOT TOTALLY THE ISSUE FACING JAMACIAN MEN BUT MEN ALOVER THE WORLD WITH POOR FINANCIAL MEANS. RICH MEN ALOVER THE WORLD NORMALLY GET THE WOMEN AND THAT IS PROMOTED IN ALL MEDIA OUTLETS, TO BEANDISH THIS ON JAMACIA IS VERY LIMITED THOUGHT.
    THE EFFECT OF SLAVERY GOES FAR BEYOND THE SEXUAL EXPLOITS, THE WHOLE BLACK RACE IS SUFFERING THE EFFECTS OF SLAVERY, IN ALL CORNERS OF THE WORLD, THE BUILDING UP OF RELATIONSHIPS IS ALWAYS BASED ON THE POWER OF THE POCKET, AND THE DEGREE OF CIRCLE THE POCKET LIES. IT IS IMPORTANT TO LOOK AT THE BEHAVIOUR OF MEN AROUND THE WORLD BEFORE SUCH SCORN IS POORED ON JAMACIAN MEN..

    MEN ARE MEN ALROUND THE WORLD, DONT FORGET TO NOTE THAT WOMEN ARE THE ONES WHO RAISE THE MEN TO BECOME WHAT THEY ARE , AND HOW TO BEHAVE TOWARD WOMEN.

    WHAT POSITION WOULD YOU RATHER BE IN THE POOR MAN OR THE RICH MAN

  4. lillyrose

    On December 21, 2009 at 11:29 am


    poor men, no wonder they have low opinions of themselves!

  5. Linvio

    On December 25, 2009 at 5:50 am


    woah… this is totally surprising to me… it pays to read other country’s situation… merry christmas…

  6. PhoenixRox

    On December 26, 2009 at 2:33 pm


    This was really interesting to read. I feel bad in some strange way now :|

  7. weareallone

    On January 10, 2010 at 12:55 pm


    I was enlightened by this. It is hard to feel some of the pressures that others are under and find this is one of the most difficult things to overcome in a relationship.

    When I was younger and dating a man from a financially prosperous background I did have the thoughts that my financial future would be secure with him, but it was superficial. I would take love over money any day. I am not a golddigger personally because I can pay my own way but the wealthier men attract more women because they have more freedom to choose their activities. What would you choose a day at home or a concert? That is the nature of man. It is just sad these men have people telling them they are worth a dollar amount because we all have special qualities, and that alone has value.

  8. a pissed off women

    On January 13, 2010 at 8:03 pm


    wteva hv ne u evn been ja women r cowed isit? also u wna talk about slavery jamaican men r not american blck men jamaican men (maroons) escaped frm the slave masters and set up ther own place in jamaica! unlike african american men who gt given their freedom jamaican men wer strong enuf to overcome! the only fault wid jamaican man is they cnt keep it in their pants not bcos their uninteligent (to hustle ie sell drugs takes alot of skill do ne of u wn u go to wrk hv to do ur thing plus watch out 4 police plus watch out 4 pple tryin to rob u, take ur custermers hvin to swallow drugs that cn kill u so u dnt end up in jail? no i didnt think so)
    the point made about women only goin with rich men, that happens all over the world u cnt deny that their r ruthless golddiggers in every race nt jus jamaican women,
    and really jamaican men insecure about their sexual prowess?? do u evn knw ne jamaican men???????? their a hell of alot more confident in the bedroom then ne white man. y do u think that?? i cn gt kinda the social status thing but nt that o plz go get urself a jamaican man wid his 10″ penis then tell me bout he hv no confidence in the bedroom haha. 1 more thing a jamaican woman is more likly to be violent then a jamaican man and she is more likly to be jelouse. please know wt ur talkin about b4 u write dumb articles again.

  9. A mela browne

    On January 1, 2012 at 11:11 pm


    Please 10 inch Jamaican man, no less the truth. They are insecure and in most cases worthless,liars. The average man there is uncircumsized and manhood is far less than 10 inches. American men is my choice, they know all the things to make a women happy.

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