Dating Psychology: Do Men Really Like Mean Girls? Fact or Myth?

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Intriguing Title! Do men like ‘mean girls’? Fact or Myth?

The assertion, ‘Men Like Mean Girls’ reminds me of some news I have recently read. According to a study conducted by four British Universities, the higher the women’s IQ (Intelligent Quotient) is, the less likely they are to marry or have a family. The opposite is true for men. That is, the higher the men’s IQ is, the more likely they are to marry.

So, apparently ‘high-IQ’ men like or marry women not according to their IQ. It seems like many of the ‘high-IQ’ women out there, are not married, nor in a relationship. The fact that men look at other ‘qualities’ rather than the Intelligence of their women is not ‘headline-news’, our common sense also would tell us that. At the same time, I think how great it is that there are women who conscientiously choose to marry and have a family so they make the ‘Intelligent’ thing to multiply and propagate our species. Being Very Intelligent but Extinct, I do not know how smart or good it would be!

Either you agree or not with the results from the British Universities, the point is that these studies seem to give some sort of foundation to the assertion ‘Men Like Mean Girls’. Better still, they might suggest the possibility that ‘even intelligent men could end up falling in love with mean girls’, if, of course, we assume that Intelligence and Meanness grow in an inverse manner. In my own social or work-wise experiences, I’ve certainly never found associated these qualities in neither, men nor women.

I firmly believe that being and acting ‘mean’ is never a sign of Intelligence, Wisdom, Sensibility, Achievement, Excellence, even though our culture, society or our ’slang’ would want us to believe otherwise. In our every-day language and attitudes we have become too complacent towards non-appropriate or even unkind and ‘mean’ behaviour. This concerns, I believe, both of us, men and women alike. It’s becoming a Real Problem! It’s quite confusing and misleading for all of us attributing ‘Success’ to people acting in ‘Mean’, unkind, selfish, reckless manners. The truth of the matter is that it is possible to achieve Success in every area of our life, including relationships, through both ways: using the best of our Intelligence, Sensibility, ‘Heart’, Wisdom or through ‘Mean’, unkind, selfish and careless ways. It’s up to us to decide which model to set up and accept in our life.