For Men Only Please

Learning is an everyday process, and as human beings we are required to learn. We acquire knowledge both in and out of the classroom, but one subject of importance to me is that of the opposite sex. In my quest for this knowledge, I walked into the book store “Relationships”, located on the corner of Waterfront Avenue and what did I see? You’re right – books. But a book on the front row display caught my attention it had the title, “10 Steps to Get His Attention”.

The front cover had the head of a man turned to the right by a woman’s index finger on his chin to get his attention. This aroused my curiosity so I picked it up. When I opened the book, what I discovered was rather shocking because the topics on the table of content were applicable to me. I wondered if these steps would be applicable to both men and women since they were required not only to get the attention but also to keep it.

Here are a few steps I unraveled, and believe me they are worth holding on to:

First, let’s get the attention with a little Eye Contact.

This bold gesture can be done almost anywhere. If you’re attracted to a lady, a little eye contact wouldn’t hurt. Let her know you looked her way, let the look be more of a compliment than that of sexual attraction. Let it be more of a passing glance, brief enough to make her know that you looked her way. This way the look you create would be so honest that it will seem like a coincidence.

After you’ve done that, stare intentionally. This should last longer than the look, as staring shows interest.

At this point, it is advisable not to rush. Wait! Wait for an opportunity to present itself and when it does, be ready for the next phase which is:

The Hand Shake!

Some people feel a handshake is just natural. We meet, introduce ourselves shake hands and that’s all. Well, I disagree. This is because over time, I have come to realize what a simple handshake, complimented with a smile can do.

I had started dating Alice, when she told me how she had known I liked her. She said that apart from the stares and stolen glances, she confirmed it in the way I shook her hand when we were properly introduced. As my hands were the warmest she shook that day. You might think she was just saying that, but I was not surprised hearing it since the handshake was well rehearsed. I had known she was invited to the gathering so I practiced how I would behave when we met. I rehearsed the gentility in the touch with my sister (sisters are good accomplices) and my charming smile in the mirror.