For Men Only Please

If you are searching for a friend, avoid turning the handshake into a caress as this might send a wrong signal. Make it simple and gentle. The gentle nature will show your care and tenderness. You don’t believe me? Ask Jennifer because after I shook her, she found it difficult to let go. So I braced myself for the next stage which is, Good Conversation.

Nothing stays longer in memory than a well structured conversation. From research, it has been discovered that: “women react more to what they hear than what they see”. So, practicing your conversation would not be a crime. A compliment makes a good opening line. Most guys must have complimented her looks so before she gets to you, she must have heard a lot of “Hey Tammy, you look good” or “Nice dress”. So, in your case, compliment not only the top, pants, dress, earrings, shoes or anything every other guy must have commented on but also talk about the color. Most women admire men with a good sense of color (so be sure you are wearing a color that compliments you). Look out for how the color blends with maybe her makeup or earring. But if it doesn’t, don’t refer to it.

Compliment her if she is dressed beautifully and you can add that her smile is too radiant to be hidden.
If she has on a bright color, then you are in luck just tie it to the smile. If you feel it is not the time, then don’t say it. The compliment is only an introduction but it can serve as the building block for a good conversation because with complimenting her smile, the ground is set for why you said so. You can now delve into a brief history of lovely smiles. Give examples of beautiful and ugly celebrities (the ugly ones will make her laugh). You can even pick some examples from those around that seem oblivious of both your existence.

If you are prepared mentally, then the conversation will be so good that it would sound just like the wolf in “Little Red Riding Hood” when answering her questions. At this juncture, (if you get here) it would be nice to follow John Legend’s advice and “take it slow”! Now you’ve become friends and the words you have said would keep ringing in her head. Sure you want it to last but there’s still a lot of work to be done because friendship is a whole new ball game. That is when you can now play the rest of the cards that will be discussed in the next article…

If you are not friends yet, try this- Patience.

Patience is a good quality that needs to be exploited when searching for a friend especially when it is a friendship you expect to last a life time. You don’t believe me? Ask Sheila.