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We tend to think of men as testosterone machines, but it doesn’t apply to all men. Some men have very low sexual desire and had rather watch a football game, go fishing or almost anything rather than have sex. That might sound strange to some women but others can tell you it’s all too true. About one in every five men have a low sex drive. But help might be right around the corner. Talk to your doctor. It’s almost certain that he can help.

We tend to think of men as sex machines, always wired and ready to go but that isn’t true. Many women have a higher sex drive than their sexual partners. Some men have such a low sexual appitite they had rather watch sports, go fishing or do almost anything to avoid haveing sex. Many women know this is true from their own experience, and many women will find it very hard to believe. About one man in five has a low sexual drive. That means one woman in five doesn’t get the sex she needs. Men are often too embarrassed to talk to their doctor, but don’t be, it is the first step to getting the help you need. 

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In some men aging, heart disease, diabetes, and sometimes drug addiction, depression, mental disorders, high blood pressure, obesity, high cholesterol, stress ,and problems of daily living plays a huge role in low desire. Testosterone is the chemical of desire, low levels means low desire and levels dip as men age. Sexual desire also involves the brain, and the brain’s chemical messaging center is closely connected to sexual desire. Irwin Goldstein, MD, states that dopamine-stimulating drugs which are used to treat Parkinson’s disease has in many cases increased sexual desire.

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If the problem is low testosterone men can take testosterone supplements. About 25% go twice weekly for testosterone injections. But most men choose the skin patches instead. If it’s psychological, counseling on sexual issues can help. If Goldstein suspects it’s low dopamine levels and he thinks it’s warranted, he might prescribe dopamine increasing drugs. Although it is not approved at this time by the FDA and it does have some risks.

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Take care of your health, eat a healthy diet, exercise, stop smoking, lose weight if you are obese,Take care of any health problems you have, such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol,or diabetes, and your over all condition, including low sex drive will surely improve, and give you a happier more enjoyable life.

Any man with a low sex drive should ask his doctor these questions:

1.Could my hair loss drugs be the cause of my low sex drive?

2.What level of sexual activity is normal for my age?

3.Is my testosterone level low for my age?

4.How can I improve my sex life?

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  1. albert1jemi

    On January 24, 2010 at 4:28 am

    very informative article

  2. GreenSunshine

    On January 24, 2010 at 4:29 am

    Quite interesting. I never imagined this particular problem will be so problematic that testosterone supplements would be required. Here’s hoping I don’t undergo anything like this. I doubt I will though.

  3. Snooky

    On January 24, 2010 at 5:02 am

    If you know where that dude is with the low sex drive please link him over to me. With his drive and my stamina we’d be good partners. On the real side I hope those that have this problem take your advice.

  4. johnnydod

    On January 24, 2010 at 5:41 am

    Gosh I hope I never have this problem… health and happiness are so close linked .

  5. ken bultman

    On January 24, 2010 at 5:44 am

    Another question that might be asked… desirable is your partner?

  6. joyhyena29

    On January 24, 2010 at 5:52 am

    nice post^^

  7. joyhyena29

    On January 24, 2010 at 5:58 am

    great share^^

  8. Rana Sinha

    On January 24, 2010 at 7:41 am

    Intriguing! It’s very difficult to establish sexual performance norms. People are different. One person may not want or need what is optimal for another. Sexuality is also very complex. A lowering sex drive might also result from other factors including the behaviour of the partner.

  9. qasimdharamsy

    On January 24, 2010 at 7:57 am

    woooo…your article scared me….thank GOD i am not one of them

  10. alensmith

    On January 24, 2010 at 8:51 am

    interesting article
    really very good post.and thanks for ur reply that i will find in my article


    On January 24, 2010 at 8:51 am

    lol. thats true ruby. i mean narcissist especially cerebral types do not like sex. they prefer autoerotic like masturbations. And diabetic men dont like sex because it often leads to erectile problems.


    On January 24, 2010 at 8:55 am

    yep i meant that their diabetes cause erectile problems. low sex drive…

  13. cardy

    On January 24, 2010 at 9:12 am

    good read and write from you

  14. Guy Hogan

    On January 24, 2010 at 9:22 am

    Very informative. Low sex drive, high sex drive: which one is normal? But I knew the medical establishment would have a drug for it. They get their money off the top.

  15. Nitin Mudgal

    On January 24, 2010 at 10:05 am

    Thanks for good article

  16. Frances Lawrence

    On January 24, 2010 at 10:11 am

    It can be due to disability too eg spina bifida, unreliability of performance can lead to low self esteem and unwillingness to start what they may not be able to finish. This can be helped by a reassuring partner and there are various medical options available too.

  17. dipz091412

    On January 24, 2010 at 10:35 am

    thnxz alot very usefull.

  18. nobert soloria bermosa

    On January 24, 2010 at 11:05 am

    very interesting, thanks


    On January 24, 2010 at 11:26 am

    Sex is a panacea for most than many diseases. First of all it

    delays men’s prostate problem, which is the basic reason for

    disinterest in sex in many men. Also women, after menopause,

    consider sex life as ended. I do hope women do realise this fact

    that men need sex, till five minutes before they die.

  20. David Roy

    On January 24, 2010 at 12:13 pm

    Check this article on resolutions:


  21. Uma Shankari

    On January 24, 2010 at 12:56 pm

    Interesting and informative.

  22. T. S. Lewis

    On January 24, 2010 at 1:07 pm

    Great recharge advice

  23. LoveDoctor

    On January 24, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    Excellent and informative article. “testerone machine.” lol

  24. Mark Gordon Brown

    On January 24, 2010 at 1:36 pm

    All I think about is sex it seems. I think it has to do with my artistic nature and the brain working around that. The interplay of light or certin colours and sounds can trigger my sex drive. Some Mark Rothko paintings have stimulated me sexually as have paintings by Mondrian. Had I not had an upbringing that made me believe in love, I may have become a sex addict. I only have sex for love.

  25. moneynwealth

    On January 24, 2010 at 1:54 pm

    Men sometimes don’t admit it but it is true…….
    it is the mentality that “Men is a Sex Machine”…….
    They need to talk to their partner what drives them crazy SEX!!!!

    Great Day!

  26. Judy Kaelin

    On January 24, 2010 at 2:52 pm

    Very interesting!

  27. teachersmith

    On January 24, 2010 at 3:30 pm

    Often men with a low sex drive are suffering from stress, tiredness or an unrealistic expectation to perform for a demanding female ego fuelled by such nonsense as Sex and the City. Testosterone does play a part but is less prevalent than work related stress I think.

  28. bailieman

    On January 24, 2010 at 4:12 pm

    Getting a man to go to the doctor in the first place is another problem on any health issue.

  29. deep blue

    On January 24, 2010 at 6:57 pm

    Very well written. There is always a natural way to every problem. Well of course, Ken has a point.

  30. standingproud

    On January 24, 2010 at 7:50 pm

    Well I was under the belief that men were just pumpers no matter what,lol.
    I have learnt here , awesome read Ruby, :) .

  31. daniel119

    On January 24, 2010 at 8:04 pm

    nice post +1

  32. PR Mace

    On January 24, 2010 at 8:44 pm

    Good informative article. Happily my husband doesn’t have this problem. In fact sometimes he thinks about sex too much. I mean sometimes I have to sleep.

  33. 8Shei8

    On January 24, 2010 at 11:39 pm

    pertaining to Ken’s question, why is it always the woman’s fault :) Interesting article Ruby.

  34. Eunice Tan

    On January 25, 2010 at 12:53 am

    Really interesting

  35. Hollywood James

    On January 25, 2010 at 12:57 am

    Great article!!! It’s unfortunate that certain men my lose their sexual ability…it is one of the greatest activities of being a human being. (Knock on wood) I haven’t lost my drive and hopefully I never will. But then again…a naked woman makes for a great aphrodisiac.

  36. Shirley Shuler

    On January 25, 2010 at 1:00 am

    Very interesting post, Ruby. Thank you for this.

  37. Payge

    On January 25, 2010 at 4:10 am

    I know a man that can be identified by what you wrote here.hewould rather work and sex isnt a proirity to him.But
    its him and we have been friends for many years.Intersting article and knew some of what you wrote but not all.

  38. Sir Gunfire

    On January 25, 2010 at 4:23 am

    Everyone is different. Generally it is true though that men are sex machines, I know this by experience. Many of my friends like to talk only about which girls have the nicest bodies and they talk about it all the time. I constantly catch my friends, and myself, getting distracted by a girl. I do find it irritating though when people only want to talk about sex. I would put myself under the category of being less sexually “motivated.” I would honestly prefer many things over sex.

  39. alensmith

    On January 25, 2010 at 5:09 am

    great one thanks for sharing

  40. Sweety

    On January 25, 2010 at 5:40 am

    Informative and well crafted health article.

  41. AlmaG

    On January 25, 2010 at 6:05 am

    Very informative. I didn\’t know that men had to use testosterone supplements.

  42. Lord Banks

    On January 25, 2010 at 8:12 am

    Good tips blood pressure reducing drugs also limit the mechanical aspects of sex. LB

  43. ashan1614

    On January 25, 2010 at 9:10 am

    Thanks for sharing, Ruby. I was aware that high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes can lower a man’s sex drive and cause erectile dysfunction. It’s something that they should talk to their doctor about, but many men hate the thought of seeing their doctor about even the most routine things, let alone sexual problems.

  44. papaleng

    On January 25, 2010 at 10:04 am

    Wow! this is so interesting to read. Luckily, i’m not on the list..LOL

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    On January 25, 2010 at 11:19 am

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  46. clay hurtubise

    On January 25, 2010 at 12:18 pm

    So you had to bone-up for this article, eh? Sex drive can often, and probably most likely, due to phycological issues.
    Good piece.

  47. upeshdaa

    On January 25, 2010 at 12:48 pm

    nice one.

  48. upeshdaa

    On January 25, 2010 at 12:53 pm

    Nice and interesting one.

  49. sweetievee

    On January 25, 2010 at 1:20 pm

    very informative… sounds like you’ve done some research. I like the suggestions on the questions to ask the doctor, and the list of things the doctor might prescribe.

  50. Chris Stonecipher

    On January 25, 2010 at 2:06 pm

    I am 40 now and truely desire my wife. I hope I never encounter this problem. Thanks for sharing this informative article.

  51. fishfry aka Elizabeth Figueroa

    On January 25, 2010 at 2:24 pm

    Good information, and you are so correct, and I am glad you wrote about this, especially since so many men “dislike” discussing this issue with their doctor. They just need to know that they are not alone, and stop and consider their lovers feelings and needs as well.

  52. Brenda Nelson

    On January 25, 2010 at 2:34 pm

    I just dont know what to say….

  53. Sourav

    On January 25, 2010 at 3:37 pm

    Lots of comments… nothing new to add… good one.

  54. ammus89

    On January 25, 2010 at 4:00 pm

    haha, never thought of that

  55. Joe Dorish

    On January 25, 2010 at 7:52 pm

    Sex is one of the true joys in life. Hope I never find out what a low sex drive is!

  56. petercurtis97

    On January 25, 2010 at 9:04 pm

    A well presented article unfortunate for those it effects but spare a thought for their partners as well.

  57. Khaos4ng31

    On January 25, 2010 at 11:31 pm

    I wonder how popular this would be if Sex wasn’t part of the title.

  58. Linvio

    On January 26, 2010 at 12:28 am

    hmm… I was scratching my back after reading this article… good thing I am still young… hehehe…

  59. Simplengtao

    On January 26, 2010 at 5:05 am

    Yeah! This a very informative content and beside it all say the true things about the reality.

  60. speckledlily

    On January 26, 2010 at 2:57 pm

    If men practice a healthy lifestyle, of course he always have a libido.

  61. Leonardo da Vinci E.

    On January 26, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    But there are some people with an incredible se drive, your article certainly makes me wonder why they are so different…care for a go at it Ruby red slippers?

  62. CA Johnson

    On January 26, 2010 at 6:52 pm

    This is very interesting. This is wonderful information for men to follow.

  63. jonski00

    On January 26, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    Interesting article, aimed at big hits and scoring them thanks to the title.
    Relevant too, it is a man thing after all, its obvious when a man has low sex drive, but no so readily apparent in a woman in the short term.
    Rather disapointed not to see lack of desire due to “ive got a headache”, “im washing my hair tonight”, etc which just leads a man to go elsewhere, or not bother to try.
    Its a partnership thing, after all, you are in it together.

    One fails you both fail really.

  64. ekokaryanto

    On January 27, 2010 at 11:15 am

    source of information is very useful especially for those in need

  65. Johanny Lisbeth

    On January 27, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    wow great article!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  66. lillyrose

    On January 27, 2010 at 12:35 pm

    Ruby, I dont know how I missed this brilliant article from you. Many men suffer in silence, this article will give them hope and although sex is not the be all and end all, it is important when you don’t have it and want it and for the sake of your relationship. Long gone are the days when women were thought not to enjoy sex or need sex. After all it is one of the oldest things in the world!

  67. chitragopi

    On January 27, 2010 at 12:50 pm

    You have cleared a common misconception

  68. babiiboiiz

    On January 27, 2010 at 6:08 pm

    that is all very true not all men are the same it is just not easy to find the right guy it might take sometime to find the one you are looking for but to tell you the truth he is out there and he will be just what you are looking for but than again he might be right there by your side every day bu tyou might not realise it

  69. shadestoshoes

    On January 27, 2010 at 7:02 pm

    I have a question for you, Can men who are very active have low testosterone? my bestest friend is having issues with how often her husband is ready and willing, he is 23yrs old and very active and she doesnt expect him cheating because he is always home and is terribly shy. Im so curious what your thoughts are.

  70. ChrisFernaM

    On January 28, 2010 at 1:25 am

    Interesting Indeed

  71. miraj

    On January 28, 2010 at 5:16 am

    very interesting and unique article,ma’am.

  72. anulal

    On January 28, 2010 at 11:48 pm

    Interesting! Men are crazy!!

  73. BeatsMe

    On January 31, 2010 at 3:25 am

    Interesting article. Obviously a very popular one. :D


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