Parental Alienation

I am a divorced parent.  Divorce is the single most difficult thing I have ever been through. There is a lot of pain associated with it. It has been a while since my divorce, however, the pain and hurt is still in my heart. I have children, and have made it a priority in my life that they will not get caught up in all the pain I have from my divorce.

When you have children and you are divorced from their parent, it is best to consider the needs of the child above your own selfish needs. If you have anger issues, don’t use your child as a tool against your divorced spouse. It is so normal to have anger issues in divorce, everyone does. Folks, let’s be grown-ups!  Anyone who attempts to alienate their child from the other parent is not fulfilling their duties as a good parent.

Personally, I have seen divorced parents deprive their child of their relationship with their divorced spouse by telling them Daddy is bad,

The parent may be a good father who is taking the brunt of a divorced spouse with anger and psychological issues that need to be addressed. 

Kids have a right to know both parent’s, it is a sacred relationship that can be easily damaged. Whether it be control issues, anger, resentment, need to get even with the other parent parents who have a pattern of sending a clear message to the child that the other parent is an inferior parent will have a negative long term effect on the child and their relationship with the other parent.

The targeted parent is not the only looser in this situation.  Clearly, a child under these circumstances is the looser. Parental Alienation costs the child a relationship with the other parent. Children are at a critical stage in their development when this occurs, it must have long term effects on them.