Revenge Isn’t So Sweet

Why do some women or men feel that they have to exact revenge on the person who broke their heart? What purpose does it serve to show vindictiveness for ending a relationship that apparently wasn’t working? Stalking, harassing, damaging property, etc. may make you feel better but what good does it do? Revenge only shows how hurt you are by the breakup. Wouldn’t it show more dignity by moving on with your life and showing the person that broke your heart that you are independent, strong, and you have respect for yourself? Never let the person who hurt you see you shed a tear. Isn’t it better to show the other person that he/she meant nothing to you and you are going to be fine without them? Both men and women make the mistake of giving too much to the person they are interested in and they seem to get nothing in return. One reason for this is that the recipient of all of these good things is just eating it up. The attention, the gifts, sex, and he/she knows that a relationship can only go downhill from there. Or you are the chaser and the other person simply is not interested in you. So when you realize that all of your attention is not working and the other person still considers you a friend and nothing else. The best decision to make is to simply to move on. There is a person out there who does really like you. Just erase the person who broke your heart from your life and put everything in the past. Don’t go over and over in your head about what you think you did wrong. Take the high road and don’t let your anger get the better of you. Revenge will only get you a restraining order or get you arrested. Maybe after the hurt feelings subside the two of you can be friends.