The Main Ways Women Manipulate Men
Something every man should read.
Here are all the secrets boys!
We women have been manipulating men for decades because we know it works! I am going to let out the secret to how we do it! The reason for this is because I am now married and have learned that manipulating actually ruins your relationship! If there are women reading this, I hope that you realize how wrong manipulation actually is!
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Telling men what they want to hear
Believe it or not we know exactly what men want to hear, what they like to hear, and what will make them give in! For example: if I want to go shopping, but we really don’t have the money or my husband doesn’t want to watch the kids I simply say that I need something or say that if he lets me do this then I will let him do what he wants to do. However when it comes time for him to go do that something then I find someway to argue with him until he gives up and once again I get my way on 2 separate occasions!
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Sex
Obviously (at least obvious enough to me) men know that women use sex to manipulate them! Most guys will do anything for sex. There are more ways than actually having sex to manipulate though. All we women really have to do is dress in a sexy way and men bend over and kiss our feet. Guys if you want a tip to stop being manipulated in this manner quit thinking with what’s below!
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Whining
We also know that if we whine about something long enough men will eventually give in so that they don’t have to listen to us whine anymore. Men- take a stand. My husband just ignores me, so after being ignored so long I stop whining and deal with the fact that the answer is no!
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Guilt
If you have ever done anything that makes you feel guilty and your wife/girlfriend knows about it she will use it over and over again to get her way! The only way to stop this is to realize that whatever you did wrong if you both decided to get over it and make the relationship work then you shouldn’t feel guilty anymore. Learn to forgive yourself and remind her that she forgave you for that. Don’t give in!
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Head Games
Women are masters at head games. We can think up things that we don’t even mean just to mess with you! We are pretty amazing if you really think about it! I mean if we don’t like something that you do we can talk you out of whatever it is and make it so that you never do it again without even knowing that’s what happened! The only way to spot this is if your woman is trying to get you to stop doing something you love and starts rambling on about all these reasons you shouldn’t do it this is what she is doing. I have learned this one the hard way. I used to try to do this to my husband, and it worked, however now that he doesn’t do anything anymore he is at home to drive me crazy and he is going crazy because he doesn’t have anything to do… so this actually works better if we girls steer clear of trying to manipulate and control our men in this way!
Those are the main ways women manipulate and control the men in our life. My advice is to stop manipulating, in the end it only makes things worse. Also for the men out there, take a stand! Don’t give in to your women manipulating you, eventually after not giving in for so long she will give up and stop manipulating you!
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Redburn
On July 3, 2008 at 1:37 pm
So true, thx for the advice. We must be very careful with women, not only they drain time and money, they are very smart doing such things to a man. lol
Teresa
On July 13, 2008 at 6:41 am
Hello there,
You are right, but manipolation never worked for me in my relationship.
Regards
Teresa
Eden Emersen
On July 18, 2008 at 2:55 pm
So true LOL
Keep telling it straight up.
Thx alot
On July 30, 2008 at 4:00 am
This was some refreshing honesty from a woman. I feel, unless you hook them up to a lie detector, most women wont admit how calculating they are in using emotional tricks to get their way.
Kathleen
On August 9, 2008 at 10:47 am
Now, how about an article on how Men Manipulate Women?
Ronnie
On August 25, 2008 at 6:49 pm
If a woman would ever try to manipulate men I would just kill her cause i don’t like my feelings and emotions being toyed with
Alaina Ellington
On November 4, 2008 at 2:04 pm
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Night9Hawk
On November 12, 2008 at 11:18 am
I’m curious to know what you think about what’s written on this website
http://ladymisato.9ix.net/
Do you think there’s any validity in the points she makes?
Alaina Ellington
On November 28, 2008 at 11:36 pm
Night9Hawk,
Which part of the page do you want to know about? There are a lot of different things on the page…
Do I agree that Real Women Don’t do Housework? The answer to that would be no in my case…but every woman is different…what I mean is I am a stay at home mother, and of course I do housework, but my hubby pitches in…
Please clarify which part of the page you would like me to view…
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Devin
On December 8, 2008 at 6:14 pm
women are dumb, like dogs
Hiwayman
On January 9, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Wymen have not only MANIPULATED men they have also
MANIPULATED the legal system. Thats why any man these days that marry are just fools. And the wymen know it.Glad all those days are behind me now.
katarina giselle
On January 13, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Well written..I disagree with the sex part though. my boyfriend knows im hypersexual so he only breaks down if hes really in the mood…usually he controls me with sex!
James
On January 18, 2009 at 10:20 pm
Why should I not believe that you are trying to manipulate me, and other men, now with the disguise of trying to use honesty and telling us what we think we want to hear?
Tricky Tricky!
Good Try.
Fornis
On February 10, 2009 at 11:27 am
Cool one! I wonder how much percentage of women do really manipulate? I think very few people do so. Statistics always speak for themselves.
c.s. robins
On February 25, 2009 at 11:13 am
I agree with this mostly..except for number one. Telling men what they want to hear is one of the greatest sources of manipulation a woman uses against a man, but your description of this technique is not manipulation. It is simply begging and then not playing fair when it’s his turn to get something he wants. He will figure this out and remember it later next time you try try this. Telling them what they want to hear would be something like a great compliment or that they are right or making them think they are so in control…then they become preoccupied with these thoughts while you get away with a lot more stuff, or you get on his good side and he willingly gives you that shopping trip. But teh rest of really true! Especially the last one!
MCD
On March 31, 2009 at 9:21 pm
People who manipulate have objectives that have nothing to do with who the other person is, but what that other person can provide for them (money, fame, sex…it’s rarely love). It can get ugly…
shelly
On April 15, 2009 at 4:36 pm
As simple as this all sounds, i still have great difficulty getting my man sweet…or doing what i want without hard pursuasion… i can never do mindgames but i think i have to start doing some kind of manipulation cos he is quite hard to control hence him being an arab, but within that cultral dominance there is a soft side and i need to start working on how to use that so he can start being less dominante. i think my problem is im too direct i need to start letting him feel he is in control. I need advice
Night9Hawk
On April 16, 2009 at 11:02 am
My appologies to Alaina Ellington-I forgot I had posted here and I’m just now getting back to you. When you were describing how women manipulate men I immediately thought of Lady Misato. I came across her website a couple of years ago on my way to other things and frankly I was stunned at some of the things she said. I initially took her site to be a typical fetish site with people going through the motions but the more I read what she described the more I was struck by how RIGHT she was about some men. The notion that some men could be manipulated into doing things for sex by appealing to their need to compete or accomplish things-i.e. to earn the right for release-sounded a bit like earning a paycheck for hard work or the result of doing some sort of task in a video game. I was curious to know what you thought of this sort of manipulation and where you thought it might fit into your list.
Alaina Ellington
On June 25, 2009 at 12:40 am
Nighthawk…
I would say that that would fit right into the sex category…women do use those types of manipulation and although it may be more out there, this type men don’t seem to mind…in fact they like it!
so it may not be a bad game to play when using that type of manipulation…if that helps…
this article is mostly on the ways women manipulate unsuspecting men…I wanted to let men know so that the manipulation can stop…I hope this answers your question…if not let me know…
Thanks for your interest!!
Alaina Ellington
ShellyTex
On August 5, 2009 at 9:42 am
I agree with fornis and shelly. my husband and i are going to a marriage counselor and he has told me for quite sometime that i manipulate him with the past and with his personality. I’m not sure i even know how to do that. I don’t play mind games. I don’t play with people’s heads and emotions like that. I am very direct. I have simply told him how i feel and what I’m going through. I have brought up the past during certain arguements but only to let him know i still don’t trust him or i am still hurt but not to use it against him to get my way. I had no other agenda in mind. I think all of this is bolony and just another excuse for him to conjure up to make himself feel justified in what he is doing which is having an affair again.
Alaina Ellington
On August 5, 2009 at 4:14 pm
ShellyTex,
I do not think that ALL women manipulate, there are just a lot of women who do.
Some women don’t even realize when they are doing it (men too) because it’s just something they do.
You may not be manipulating your husband but the way you talk to him makes it sound like you are so maybe you should try a different approach.
If your husband is having an affair ***again*** that is grounds to leave him! I would!! I have some advice about the situation but I won’t go into it here. If you would like to e-mail me you can,
jenysiejane@gmail.com
Just put who you are in the subject so I don’t delete it.
Thanks for reading my article!
AlainaEllington
Matt
On August 10, 2009 at 1:29 am
Everyone manipulates. Children manipulate parents, parents manipulate children, partners manipulate each other, employees manipulat employers, employers manipulate employees. It’s the way life is programmed. The reason we manipulate is because we know we truly have no control over another being, and manipulation is a way to influence.
Women manipulate men, and men manipulate women. I can speak for myself, and hopefully many other men: mature men know when women are playing the seduction or head games, and at least I enjoy it, and let them play . . . it is fun. As I have learned to decode their many of their manipulation behaviours (or at least that’s what I have experienced), I have fun with it, letting them think they are in control. When I see younger inexperienced guys hanging with their tongues hanging out, I chuckle, because they will reflect back and see how they were played. Women are significantly more adept than men in mind games, and no matter what coaching men take, we will never reach the emotional intelligence of women.
chevy
On September 27, 2009 at 10:18 pm
manipulation is nothing less than witchcraft in God’s eyes.Those who do so are guilty of it.something to think about.
Tiffany
On October 22, 2009 at 7:12 pm
I agree with Matt on this topic. Men are greatly mistaken if they think women are the only ones that manipulate. I see my bratty SEVEN yr old cousin manipulate his mom into buying him a new toy all the time. I can say that I’ve seen my boyfriend try to manipulate me before as well…I don’t think it’s fair to say just women do it. And sometimes, women do it for the own good of their man. I’ve convince my boyfriend to not hang out with his friends the other night just cause he has a lot to study for this week (and no, he didn’t hang out with me). The next day he thanked me cause he got a 100 on his quiz. Isn’t that manipulation? I want my boyfriend to be successful cause I love him. So manipulation isn’t always bad. And all the men above that posted things like “women are stupid” are just as foolish themselves because they manipulate just as much as we do.
Ada
On November 9, 2009 at 9:17 am
WTF man, what are you talking about?
I have always been in relationships where I was manipulated. I know a man who says openly that he is manipulating me. I always say what I think and dont care, it took me ages to learn how to stand up for myself.
And now when I do what I please and dont let anyone cross the line, now I am not feminine enough, because I dont play the game.
Please, is there anyone intelligent to express her/his opinion?
Goodselfme
On November 21, 2009 at 2:07 am
I can honestly say I have not been a manipulating lady in my life. I have seen these things done or heard others talk about them and thought they were underhanded ways of getting out of discussion with their special man. Most loved ones will do things if some good reason is given. TX for the openness here and well composed too.
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