The Main Ways Women Manipulate Men
by Something every man should read.
Here are all the secrets boys!
We women have been manipulating men for decades because we know it works! I am going to let out the secret to how we do it! The reason for this is because I am now married and have learned that manipulating actually ruins your relationship! If there are women reading this, I hope that you realize how wrong manipulation actually is!
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Telling men what they want to hear
Believe it or not we know exactly what men want to hear, what they like to hear, and what will make them give in! For example: if I want to go shopping, but we really don’t have the money or my husband doesn’t want to watch the kids I simply say that I need something or say that if he lets me do this then I will let him do what he wants to do. However when it comes time for him to go do that something then I find someway to argue with him until he gives up and once again I get my way on 2 separate occasions!
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Sex
Obviously (at least obvious enough to me) men know that women use sex to manipulate them! Most guys will do anything for sex. There are more ways than actually having sex to manipulate though. All we women really have to do is dress in a sexy way and men bend over and kiss our feet. Guys if you want a tip to stop being manipulated in this manner quit thinking with what’s below!
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Whining
We also know that if we whine about something long enough men will eventually give in so that they don’t have to listen to us whine anymore. Men- take a stand. My husband just ignores me, so after being ignored so long I stop whining and deal with the fact that the answer is no!
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Guilt
If you have ever done anything that makes you feel guilty and your wife/girlfriend knows about it she will use it over and over again to get her way! The only way to stop this is to realize that whatever you did wrong if you both decided to get over it and make the relationship work then you shouldn’t feel guilty anymore. Learn to forgive yourself and remind her that she forgave you for that. Don’t give in!
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Head Games
Women are masters at head games. We can think up things that we don’t even mean just to mess with you! We are pretty amazing if you really think about it! I mean if we don’t like something that you do we can talk you out of whatever it is and make it so that you never do it again without even knowing that’s what happened! The only way to spot this is if your woman is trying to get you to stop doing something you love and starts rambling on about all these reasons you shouldn’t do it this is what she is doing. I have learned this one the hard way. I used to try to do this to my husband, and it worked, however now that he doesn’t do anything anymore he is at home to drive me crazy and he is going crazy because he doesn’t have anything to do… so this actually works better if we girls steer clear of trying to manipulate and control our men in this way!
Those are the main ways women manipulate and control the men in our life. My advice is to stop manipulating, in the end it only makes things worse. Also for the men out there, take a stand! Don’t give in to your women manipulating you, eventually after not giving in for so long she will give up and stop manipulating you!
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Post CommentRedburn
On July 3, 2008 at 1:37 pm
So true, thx for the advice. We must be very careful with women, not only they drain time and money, they are very smart doing such things to a man. lol
Teresa
On July 13, 2008 at 6:41 am
Hello there,
You are right, but manipolation never worked for me in my relationship.
Regards
Teresa
Eden Emersen
On July 18, 2008 at 2:55 pm
So true LOL
Keep telling it straight up.
Thx alot
On July 30, 2008 at 4:00 am
This was some refreshing honesty from a woman. I feel, unless you hook them up to a lie detector, most women wont admit how calculating they are in using emotional tricks to get their way.
Kathleen
On August 9, 2008 at 10:47 am
Now, how about an article on how Men Manipulate Women?
Ronnie
On August 25, 2008 at 6:49 pm
If a woman would ever try to manipulate men I would just kill her cause i don’t like my feelings and emotions being toyed with
Alaina Ellington
On November 4, 2008 at 2:04 pm
I just completed an article entitled “Say I Love You Uniquely” Filled with great advice on romancing your special someone!
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Thanks for all the comments!!! I greatly appreciate the support!
Sincerely,
Jenysie
Night9Hawk
On November 12, 2008 at 11:18 am
I’m curious to know what you think about what’s written on this website
http://ladymisato.9ix.net/
Do you think there’s any validity in the points she makes?
Alaina Ellington
On November 28, 2008 at 11:36 pm
Night9Hawk,
Which part of the page do you want to know about? There are a lot of different things on the page…
Do I agree that Real Women Don’t do Housework? The answer to that would be no in my case…but every woman is different…what I mean is I am a stay at home mother, and of course I do housework, but my hubby pitches in…
Please clarify which part of the page you would like me to view…
oh and check out:
http://www.jenysiejane.webs.com
It’s a new website for writers to promote their work!!
Devin
On December 8, 2008 at 6:14 pm
women are dumb, like dogs
Hiwayman
On January 9, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Wymen have not only MANIPULATED men they have also
MANIPULATED the legal system. Thats why any man these days that marry are just fools. And the wymen know it.Glad all those days are behind me now.
katarina giselle
On January 13, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Well written..I disagree with the sex part though. my boyfriend knows im hypersexual so he only breaks down if hes really in the mood…usually he controls me with sex!
James
On January 18, 2009 at 10:20 pm
Why should I not believe that you are trying to manipulate me, and other men, now with the disguise of trying to use honesty and telling us what we think we want to hear?
Tricky Tricky!
Good Try.
Fornis
On February 10, 2009 at 11:27 am
Cool one! I wonder how much percentage of women do really manipulate? I think very few people do so. Statistics always speak for themselves.
c.s. robins
On February 25, 2009 at 11:13 am
I agree with this mostly..except for number one. Telling men what they want to hear is one of the greatest sources of manipulation a woman uses against a man, but your description of this technique is not manipulation. It is simply begging and then not playing fair when it’s his turn to get something he wants. He will figure this out and remember it later next time you try try this. Telling them what they want to hear would be something like a great compliment or that they are right or making them think they are so in control…then they become preoccupied with these thoughts while you get away with a lot more stuff, or you get on his good side and he willingly gives you that shopping trip. But teh rest of really true! Especially the last one!
MCD
On March 31, 2009 at 9:21 pm
People who manipulate have objectives that have nothing to do with who the other person is, but what that other person can provide for them (money, fame, sex…it’s rarely love). It can get ugly…
shelly
On April 15, 2009 at 4:36 pm
As simple as this all sounds, i still have great difficulty getting my man sweet…or doing what i want without hard pursuasion… i can never do mindgames but i think i have to start doing some kind of manipulation cos he is quite hard to control hence him being an arab, but within that cultral dominance there is a soft side and i need to start working on how to use that so he can start being less dominante. i think my problem is im too direct i need to start letting him feel he is in control. I need advice
Night9Hawk
On April 16, 2009 at 11:02 am
My appologies to Alaina Ellington-I forgot I had posted here and I’m just now getting back to you. When you were describing how women manipulate men I immediately thought of Lady Misato. I came across her website a couple of years ago on my way to other things and frankly I was stunned at some of the things she said. I initially took her site to be a typical fetish site with people going through the motions but the more I read what she described the more I was struck by how RIGHT she was about some men. The notion that some men could be manipulated into doing things for sex by appealing to their need to compete or accomplish things-i.e. to earn the right for release-sounded a bit like earning a paycheck for hard work or the result of doing some sort of task in a video game. I was curious to know what you thought of this sort of manipulation and where you thought it might fit into your list.
Alaina Ellington
On June 25, 2009 at 12:40 am
Nighthawk…
I would say that that would fit right into the sex category…women do use those types of manipulation and although it may be more out there, this type men don’t seem to mind…in fact they like it!
so it may not be a bad game to play when using that type of manipulation…if that helps…
this article is mostly on the ways women manipulate unsuspecting men…I wanted to let men know so that the manipulation can stop…I hope this answers your question…if not let me know…
Thanks for your interest!!
Alaina Ellington
ShellyTex
On August 5, 2009 at 9:42 am
I agree with fornis and shelly. my husband and i are going to a marriage counselor and he has told me for quite sometime that i manipulate him with the past and with his personality. I’m not sure i even know how to do that. I don’t play mind games. I don’t play with people’s heads and emotions like that. I am very direct. I have simply told him how i feel and what I’m going through. I have brought up the past during certain arguements but only to let him know i still don’t trust him or i am still hurt but not to use it against him to get my way. I had no other agenda in mind. I think all of this is bolony and just another excuse for him to conjure up to make himself feel justified in what he is doing which is having an affair again.
Alaina Ellington
On August 5, 2009 at 4:14 pm
ShellyTex,
I do not think that ALL women manipulate, there are just a lot of women who do.
Some women don’t even realize when they are doing it (men too) because it’s just something they do.
You may not be manipulating your husband but the way you talk to him makes it sound like you are so maybe you should try a different approach.
If your husband is having an affair ***again*** that is grounds to leave him! I would!! I have some advice about the situation but I won’t go into it here. If you would like to e-mail me you can,
jenysiejane@gmail.com
Just put who you are in the subject so I don’t delete it.
Thanks for reading my article!
AlainaEllington
Matt
On August 10, 2009 at 1:29 am
Everyone manipulates. Children manipulate parents, parents manipulate children, partners manipulate each other, employees manipulat employers, employers manipulate employees. It’s the way life is programmed. The reason we manipulate is because we know we truly have no control over another being, and manipulation is a way to influence.
Women manipulate men, and men manipulate women. I can speak for myself, and hopefully many other men: mature men know when women are playing the seduction or head games, and at least I enjoy it, and let them play . . . it is fun. As I have learned to decode their many of their manipulation behaviours (or at least that’s what I have experienced), I have fun with it, letting them think they are in control. When I see younger inexperienced guys hanging with their tongues hanging out, I chuckle, because they will reflect back and see how they were played. Women are significantly more adept than men in mind games, and no matter what coaching men take, we will never reach the emotional intelligence of women.
chevy
On September 27, 2009 at 10:18 pm
manipulation is nothing less than witchcraft in God’s eyes.Those who do so are guilty of it.something to think about.
Tiffany
On October 22, 2009 at 7:12 pm
I agree with Matt on this topic. Men are greatly mistaken if they think women are the only ones that manipulate. I see my bratty SEVEN yr old cousin manipulate his mom into buying him a new toy all the time. I can say that I’ve seen my boyfriend try to manipulate me before as well…I don’t think it’s fair to say just women do it. And sometimes, women do it for the own good of their man. I’ve convince my boyfriend to not hang out with his friends the other night just cause he has a lot to study for this week (and no, he didn’t hang out with me). The next day he thanked me cause he got a 100 on his quiz. Isn’t that manipulation? I want my boyfriend to be successful cause I love him. So manipulation isn’t always bad. And all the men above that posted things like “women are stupid” are just as foolish themselves because they manipulate just as much as we do.
Ada
On November 9, 2009 at 9:17 am
WTF man, what are you talking about?
I have always been in relationships where I was manipulated. I know a man who says openly that he is manipulating me. I always say what I think and dont care, it took me ages to learn how to stand up for myself.
And now when I do what I please and dont let anyone cross the line, now I am not feminine enough, because I dont play the game.
Please, is there anyone intelligent to express her/his opinion?
Goodselfme
On November 21, 2009 at 2:07 am
I can honestly say I have not been a manipulating lady in my life. I have seen these things done or heard others talk about them and thought they were underhanded ways of getting out of discussion with their special man. Most loved ones will do things if some good reason is given. TX for the openness here and well composed too.
David
On December 2, 2009 at 11:16 pm
I used to be manipulated easily by women, especially with guilt and various threats – like social pressure, etc… It used to make me so mad. I started to think that all women were huge liars. Then I realized that I fell for it because my mother had been doing all that stuff to me ever since I was young (SHe had a very traumatic childhood). When I discovered that and told her the games she was playing (she wasn’t even aware that she was doing it), I never felt easily manipulated after that and I started to be able to really have fun with a woman and learned to avoid the sneaky ones.
tsoa
On December 3, 2009 at 3:26 am
Thanks for the eye openner. I’m having the same problem with my wife. She’s always trying to manipulate me through either sex or by playing head games. This is really messing up our merriage to a point that I’m considering a divorce. The only thing keeping this merriage together is our 1 year old son. It is very sad that it has to be this way. She was nothing like that when I met her.
ryan
On December 27, 2009 at 10:15 pm
“The reason we manipulate is because we know we truly have no control over another being, and manipulation is a way to influence.”
and what is the difference between controlling and “influencing through manipulation”?
just different ways of saying the same thing.
S A JOHNSON
On March 30, 2010 at 11:45 pm
Wow! @ Ben…
I agree though that everyone can and does from time to time manipulate someone to get what they want.
single4sanity
On May 27, 2010 at 5:48 pm
Yeah “ben” chill out. at least make a reasonable point, stupid.
Sam
On September 16, 2010 at 1:47 am
You write all of this as if it’s funny to you. I hope that the ‘Women’ also understand that manipulating men with ‘head games’ that you so pridefully describe. Will actually get you wound up Dead! You talk as if men are somehow docile and will sit and accept this kind of treatment. Like any animal that attacks a man. he will defend himself from things that he perceives as threatening. So understand that manipulation just doesn’t mess up relationships, it can also get you Dead.
jonny
On September 19, 2010 at 12:30 pm
if I ever decide to get back in the dating pool,I would date a foreign woman,mexican or european before I would ever date and American woman.American woman arent worth the hastle
blaine1976
On September 24, 2010 at 5:21 am
I must say i don\’t find this funny at all. I have always been bothered by manipulation and the crap games women play either at work or at clubs to bend the truth and get what they want.
One time i left a job because a female coworker told everyone i touched her when i tapped her on the shoulder(she did this to make her boyfriend pissed at me because he wasn\’t paying her enough attention at home; whereas i was just trying to do my job). And to be honest i didn\’t think it was funny i thought real hard about what i was planning to do to her. Luckily i cooled myself down.
Lying and manipulating someones feelings is not something to be proud of. However i do realize it is something most American women do because they think they are smarter and more sophisticated than men in general.
I agree with Jonny, i would not marry an American woman unless i knew her my whole life. Reason why is simple. American women are greedy, manipulative, liars that get off on seeing men suffer. They don\’t want to understand us. They want to control us. Screw that!!!
Alaina Ellington
On September 24, 2010 at 2:04 pm
@ Blaine and Jonny
Not all American women are like that…we are not all controlling and manipulating…and are you insinuating that women from other countries do not do that, because I would have to say that I don\’t believe that one bit!
Sorry about your experience Blaine, there are women who want what they want and will go about getting it even at the cost of others. I hope that the situation was worked out!
And as I stated in the article….I choose to not manipulate the man in my life. We have an honest relationship, and when I want something if the answer is no, then I leave it at that. Sometimes I will ask why, and he always has a good reason. He is the provider and the head of my household, a position I am grateful he holds because I wouldn\’t want that responsibility and he does it well…and I know that when he makes a decision he doesn\’t do it quickly or out of spite, he does it with our family\’s best interest.
I would also like to say that there are men in america who like to be manipulated, or stay with women who they know manipulate them.
Thank you both for reading and commenting
I appreciate your opinions!
blaine1976
On September 25, 2010 at 4:21 am
Thank you for the honest response. You may not know this Alaina but i can tell a lot about a person, even on a website. and you are definitely different. Most women would have just responded to my post with hostility but your response is both courteous and thought provoking.
I am not necessarily saying women from different countries are the cream of the crop. I just don’t like being in the crossfire, when I’ve done nothing wrong and bills have to be paid. I apologize if my words came across as hostile.
You are a refreshing light in this vast array of darkness. You might not want to hear it but you are rare indeed. Your husband is a lucky man.
Tracy
On November 6, 2010 at 11:29 am
Personally I think the title should say ’some women’. Don’t tar everyone with the same brush. We are not all heartless. Some of us actually genuinely ‘care’ about how our man is feeling, and how he grows in the world ‘i.e. lives his own pleasures and passions and feels fulfilled as a human being.
Dan
On November 12, 2010 at 3:56 am
Women are raised to be sensitive and irrational.
All a man needs is standards.
“This is what I want, if you can’t give it to me then tough, I’ll find someone who will.”
She’ll either cry about it, curse you or stay with you.
Simple.
marcia boardman
On November 21, 2010 at 4:00 pm
What a load of chauvinistic bull… Excuse me I am married and have been with the sam man for 6 years. Yes I am very guilty of manipulation. But its only because men are just as manipulative and if you do not take the matter into your own hands you will be the one controlled. Which it sounds like is the case with you. Please stop trying to brain wash other women the way you have been, its hard being a women in a mans world. We only have so many weapons to counteract theirs and I will damned if I see another women trying to talk us out of protecting ourselves.
Victoria
On November 24, 2010 at 3:41 pm
I manipulate people often because I’m a psych and know exactly how. I also know exactly when and how anyone is attempting to manipulate me.
BUT
I never manipulate for the wrong reasons. I never try to get money from my husband for shopping, etc. These things will always come back to bite you in the ass (karma). My tactics are always for good reason. For example: I manipulated my husband to stop drinking when we met. It takes patience and the perfect choice of words. He was an alcoholic but he was also one of the kindest souls I’d ever come across. He hasn’t been drunk in a year now.
Usually I can manipulate most people to act more positively toward life and other people. I can’t stand negativity and I use my skills to change their behavior. I’ve never admitted to anyone that I used manipulation techniques to help them. My husband still believes he stopped drinking without any help.
Don’t use your ability to manipulate men for the wrong reasons. It will only hurt you in the end.
Paul Dyer
On November 26, 2010 at 4:56 pm
My wife has played truly horrible mind games since we were married almost 26 years ago. This is how it works- She goes into an angry mood to let me know she is upset, and to place pressure on me withdraws vocal communication & practical & emotional support. This has always completely floored me and my response has always been to try and reason with her – unsuccessfully, of course, because she never intends to be reasonable. So it is me who starts nutting off and eventually in frustration I go completely haywire to the point of violence, smashing things and – several times – assaulting her. I have twice been arrested and spent time in police cells, both times escaping conviction as she declined to testify. She gets me back repentant and willing to make amends until the next event occurs. Talking with her about this has never been any good, it will happen again as invariably as the sun comes up each morning. Our two children have been in the middle of this all their lives. We all four are victims of this terrible situation, my wife just as much but in my opinion not for the reasons she believes. I have watched Dr Phil on TV extensively, and he says people who play the victim role victimize others, and that is certainly true for us. I see no way out of this other than leaving, or learning not to fall into the trap but that is not easy. Each time the situation is different and the feeling of isolation in all ways is always complete.
Mace
On January 24, 2011 at 5:28 pm
Agree, any man in the US who marries a woman without a good pre-nup is making a huge mistake. My ex-wife used to manipulate me with threats of divorce. Every time she’d do this, I would shiver in fear… “my other daddy”…child support…half of everything I owned…humiliation. She threatened to divorce me daily for years until, finally, as my business was turning the corner, I called her bluff and got her out of my life for good.
Dex
On January 30, 2011 at 11:33 pm
After my wife played all the manipulation games, especially withholding sex I decided I didn’t care anymore and had enough. Sex wasn’t worth it anymore. So….I now withhold all emotions and sex from her. Game playing at it’s best you could say. I endured 12 years of it so 1.5 years isn’t so bad for her to handle. Totally throws a woman for a loop when you no longer show an interest in sex and say you don’t feel up to it anymore. Take that and no touching of any kind and keep she’s only a room mate mindst and it becomes quite devestation to a wife/woman’s’ mindset. We all reep what we sow.
Alana Deschannel
On May 5, 2011 at 7:45 am
Sounds like some of you women are just wimps or you believe that relationships actually ARE a 50-50 deal? They’re not and never have been. That’s an illusion. It’s wonderful to be in charge of a relationship and a gift we women have over men. I learned to wrap boys around my finger when I was 12 and never regretted it. Don’t give your power away, ladies.
James
On May 5, 2011 at 4:49 pm
She might never catch on and divorce your ass and take everything you have, including the kids, too!
mike
On August 25, 2011 at 11:11 pm
ill never let a woman manipulate me again, its way to much pain and suffering. now im looking for sex without a relationship, but that proves to be challenging because we all know how the game is. the only thing women are better at are giving birth and manipulation, men built this world with hard work and intellect..
Noneofyourbiz
On August 30, 2011 at 10:11 pm
“Believe it or not, we know exactly what men want to hear.”
“Most guys will do anything for sex.”
“We also know that if we whine about something long enough men will eventually give in so that they don’t have to listen to us whine anymore.” (I LoL’ed at this one).
You sound like a god damn fool.
I don’t know who makes you (that being plural, I’m assuming you saying we means you saying “we women”) can’t assume you know what men (assuming all men) want to hear, since every person is different.
You haven’t met “most guys”, so you don’t know what “most guys” will do for sex. Most guys that I HAVE MET won’t do “anything” for sex…
I have a girlfriend. I don’t need to go out of my way for sex. We love each other and it comes naturally. It is safe to say that, for a lot of other men, it is the same. To say most men will do anything for sex is immature, and damn right foolish.
Joe
On October 24, 2011 at 9:23 am
Alaina Ellington sounds like a low class bitch. Why would you be proud of these things?
LR
On December 29, 2011 at 4:36 pm
@Devin
Exactly, women are really like dogs, not men and that’s why abusive, manipulative women get abused back from men they manipulate and abuse and lose their children to their man. Men retaliate when women are in control. Believe it or not, women are actually more manipulative than men.
@Alana Deschannel
It’s something girls are taught to do plus head games where women shut up and ignore their man too much.
Twc
On January 18, 2012 at 2:03 pm
so this is why domestic violence is so high these days lol this is so pathetic… these kinda behaviors can get you killed… you shouldn\’t toy with ppls emotions that\’s for us men too! \’\'go shopping\’\’ bitch get a job!!