Top 10 Things Men Should Not Do in a Divorce
A humorous look at lessons I learned through my divorce proceedings. Sometimes all you can do is laugh.
6- Hire an Attorney- Unless you just don’t like figuring out how to fill out the paper work yourself this is really all they are good for and remember they charge by the hour.
7- Think your rights are the same as hers- It sounds good to say and the system will want you to believe it but at the end of the day they are not and if it does get to the point she thinks they are looking that way she will get a restraining order on you or make other false allegations that will most definitely reduce your rights.
8- Be compassionate toward her- She will use this against you as much as you show it. Do not trust anything you hear from her and stand your ground but don’t stand on ground within a hundreds yards of her without an impartial witness. She is not hurting she is plotting.
9- Show that your are responsible- Once you do this 90% percent of the burden goes to you. Debt, fault or whatever else oh and by the way burden does not mean assets.
10- Think that anyone but you care about you and your children- Remember the less support you have to pay through DOR the less of a budget the court system has so do you really think they want you to have joint custody? No they want you to get out of there courtroom quickly because this saves money and if you have the higher income you will definitely be a more likely target for them to slap with the support payments.
I know I may sound bitter but believe me this is how I have seen the situation unfold from experience. All in all just think about how badly your kids need a stable parent in their life. Never bad mouth your spouse to or in front of them and always be the dad that they need and want. Do not let the court and you former spouse drag you down to their corrupt level. when your children look at you with that glow in their eye and want you to be the first person they see after every milestone in their life then you will be content. Until then remain calm because the time you are allowed with your children is the most precious thing you have and all you can control through this entire ordeal is how you spend that time.
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