What a Woman Thinks

That’s a lot of work just for sex huh? But it could work to your advantage.

Plant the idea of your fantasy in her mind, then let it take root. If you’re nervous, tell her you had a sexy dream about her, then play shy and make her pry it out of you. You may find she’s extremely interested and presenting your fantasy as a dream avoids making her feel like she isn’t satisfying you. The more you talk about it, the more each of you will continue to think about it later. These thoughts will grow into desires and fantasies. After mental stimulation comes physical touch. Next time you’re out to dinner with friends, whisper sexy things in her ear or caress her leg under the table. These actions combined with her sexy thoughts will have her bringing out the Samantha Jones (that’s Sex and the City talk) in her in no time!

The lesson: Arouse her mind and her body will follow.

Do girls talk about sex more than guys?

Without a doubt.

It’s as surprising for me as it is for you. I’d always assumed sex and sport was a close tie when it came to topics of conversation at the pub or in front of the X-Box. From all accounts however, despite research proving a man will think about sex every 52 seconds, guys don’t really talk that much about it. Not to the detail that we girls do at least.

In my experience – that is, observation of by brother and his mates, guy friends, etc – guys will tell of their encounters but not discuss. So long as you scored and your mates can either congratulate you on banging a hottie or laugh and bag you out about screwing a dare, that’s as far as the convo need go.

What do chicks have to talk about? Fellas, have you ever seen an episode of Sex and the City? It’s about as close to reality as it gets. Talking about sex is a chance for us to brag, laugh, cry, and get advice and approval. When it comes down to it, sex is just another thing for us to talk about over drinks or coffee J

Did you know? Women have more brain cells set aside for communication than men and the act of talking triggers a flood of chemicals which gives them a rush similar to that felt by heroin addicts on a high.

What do women really think about porn?

Porn is really a taboo subject amongst women. Even if you regularly watch it you wouldn’t tell a soul. We put on this façade that we’re disgusted by it and that we’re too good to watch it, when really most of us are kind of curious to be honest.

However, some of us tend to feel we are in competition with porn stars and their bodies. If your in a relatively knew relationship odds are your girlfriend will still have her insecurities and porn is a big barrier to her ridding herself of those insecurities.

A friend of mine who used to be disgusted by the thought of porn is now a regular viewer. Her boyfriend suggested they pick a DVD together and just see how they liked it. If it was a terrible experience, he told her, they could forget it ever happened. She says they laughed about it but tried some of the moves and positions and now have a delegated “sexy-movie night” and it’s really kept their relationship hot.

The lesson: Give her a chance to change her mind about porn.

Did you know? A study at the Washington University School of Medicine in St Louis revealed that women who view erotic imagery have responses as strong as those seen in men.