What’s Wrong with Being a Tearful Man? Answers Here
by Feminism has turned men into weepy crybabies, here are some problems with that.
One big myth that feminism and American culture has foisted upon the world is that crying, for men, is perfectly normal. Yes, I know that there are cultures in the world wherein it is perfectly natural for a man to cry, but up until feminism legitimized male sensitivity those cultures were thought to be weak and incapable of significant achievement, and rightly so. Yes, stoicism is a stereotype of the hyper-masculine man so often mocked over the last 30 years, but that does not mean there is anything wrong with it. Men who bawl are, for the most part, less trustworthy, less reliable, frailer, than men who do not. Women get a pass here because of hormones. Emotional frailty is built in to them, besides, stoicism and strength are not expected of women in American culture. It is nice if they happen, but they are not required.
Here are the problems with being a weepy crybaby:
Emotional
People cry when they let themselves become slaves to emotion, which is possibly the most useless of all “human” characteristics. Being “emotional” is the opposite of being reasonable. Whatever you think while in your hysterics, whatever you say, will most likely be wrong. Obviously, this is a problem most people have – being prone to emotional acts and thinking, but it is something that other people throughout history have sought to control, to rein in. The contemporary world is now accepting of emotionalism, sentimentality, and the flawed thinking that goes along with them. Supposedly this brand of weakness is a part of “what it means to be human”. Defecating is also human, you do not spend your days wallowing in your own feces, do you? Emotional thinking is where mistakes come from, it is what taints logic.
Low reality threshold
Real life is full of pain, disappointment, reasons to be sad. Being able to deal with all that is a part of adulthood. Crying is how you avoid dealing with it, it is the reflex that kicks in in times of stress for people who cannot cope with hardship. You feel pain, you scream, or you curse, this is a reflex, not an act of control, it is what you do when you are not hardened to suffering. If you look at what babies do, soil their diapers, cry uncontrollably, smile for no reason, these are all things that people do on instinct, not as a result of learned logical methods of dealing with a problem. An adult should have exactly nothing in common with an infant, if they do then you term their behavior “infantile”. Crying is infantile.
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Post Commentladybaby
On May 12, 2009 at 8:18 am
Moncho man, I have to disagree with you on this one. I hate that our society has forced boys to hold in there emotions and call them “sissies” if they dare to cry. Crying is RELEASE MECHANISM not a sign of weakness. Babies cry because it is the only way they can get our attention to have their needs met. Boys who get their feelings hurt, or are bullied at school, need to release their emotions with tears, or turn into hard core bullies themselves. A man has feelings just like a woman. Maybe as they get older they feel they must uphold their man hood to feel strong and in control. Often those are the type of men who end up raping women and become abusers of women. I’d rater have a man who is not afraid to cry, than have one who controls their insecurities with power and violence.
When a man loses a child and cries at the funeral, is he a weakling because he LOVED his child and the pain is too great to hold in? It is good that we can differ in our opinions because there usually is two side to every thing. I like your articles. Keep writing them, even if I don’t agree with them all.