What’s Wrong with Being a Tearful Man? Answers Here
by Feminism has turned men into weepy crybabies, here are some problems with that.
Obvious vulnerabilities
Crying is a external declaration of weakness. It says “I am not able to handle this situation like a man, therefore I must revert to childish behavior”. A man who cries in private is rightly ashamed of it, a man who cries in public has no shame. He does not even see what’s wrong with his behavior. It is advertising to the world his status as life’s victim, like an unarmed soldier on a battlefield announcing his presence and his vulnerabilities to the enemy. More than anything it is *stupid*. Humanity has come from men willing to walk upright in battle without breaking the line, to men who weep because they lost their job, or their wife left them.
Self-pity
All weeping involves the “poor me” idea, the inward gaze at one’s own suffering. When people pity themselves they are really saying that other people should pity them, but they are not, so poor me, I have to supply my own contemptuous fake-kindness. Self-pity is one of those addictive habits that never gets anybody anywhere and is really about attention-whoring. Weepers who are full of self-pity are usually desperate for somebody to come console them.
Feminist glamor
This is where feminism comes in. It made being a male woman glamorous, instead of the scornful thing it once was when things like bravery and physical strength were important. Women are not naturally “brave”, it is rarely ever required of them therefore they do not see a value in it, it is just meaningless posturing to them. Feminism has now made it meaningless posturing for men too. Why fight fear, or overcome when you can break down and hope for somebody to say “there, there, poor baby”?
The Solution
Why can’t women learn to scorn weakness? Why should it be ok for them to cry if their boss happens to speak to them in a harsh tone? How about just erasing this crybaby period from human history and move on to being being strong grown-ups who can face the ugly things life throws up without the hysteria? I realize that not all women are princesses looking for daddy to protect them. A cold invulnerable Amazon who stands with you for purely selfish reasons is far far better than a whiny emotionally manipulative baby who is also with you for purely selfish reasons.
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Post Commentladybaby
On May 12, 2009 at 8:18 am
Moncho man, I have to disagree with you on this one. I hate that our society has forced boys to hold in there emotions and call them “sissies” if they dare to cry. Crying is RELEASE MECHANISM not a sign of weakness. Babies cry because it is the only way they can get our attention to have their needs met. Boys who get their feelings hurt, or are bullied at school, need to release their emotions with tears, or turn into hard core bullies themselves. A man has feelings just like a woman. Maybe as they get older they feel they must uphold their man hood to feel strong and in control. Often those are the type of men who end up raping women and become abusers of women. I’d rater have a man who is not afraid to cry, than have one who controls their insecurities with power and violence.
When a man loses a child and cries at the funeral, is he a weakling because he LOVED his child and the pain is too great to hold in? It is good that we can differ in our opinions because there usually is two side to every thing. I like your articles. Keep writing them, even if I don’t agree with them all.