Whose Change of Life is This Anyway?

Doctors have now discovered that men suffer from ” The Male Menopause.” Whichever way you look at it, it boils down to the fact, that even without menstruation, men are not going to be left out of things. Women are not the only ones to go through the experience of hormonal changes. Man, too, is aware of entering a new phase of his life, unwilling though he may be to accept it.

When our dearly beloved looks in the mirror and sees his enlarging waistline, which is due to all the pints of beer he consumed in his youth, and his receding hair, which he tells us is because of all the worry he suffers, he feels unloved and unwanted. Now is the time to tell him we still love him, whilst secretly changing his diet to foods containing less fat and sugar. It might help him to lose weight, and it can help us too, as the ageing process affects both sexes.

Woman has always been the main provider of emotional security in a relationship, both as a wife and mother. Men are still boys at heart, and we took over where his Mum left off, We can’t stop him from losing his hair, but we can tell him we love him just the same, with or without it. We, too, are changing, and we need to work even harder at keeping ourselves smart and attractive for him.

During the ” male menopause” or mid life crisis, which is simply a dramatic way of saying he is getting older, some men start to feel inadequate at work, especially if surrounded by males in their late teens and early twenties. They have the sex drive he used to have, his seems to be waning a little these days, and he listens to their boastful jokes, and longs for the days when he was a young stud.

At this point in their lives, some men are so desperate to prove to themselves that they are still attractive, they find a dolly bird to cling onto their arm, as she teeters along in her very high heels. Socialising with her helps his morale, although she probably likes his money.

The majority of men feel safe and happy in the relationship with the woman they chose to spend their life with, and they now opt to watch football rather than play it. They have moments of depression, just like we do, but they never suffer from headaches and colds during their change of life. it’s always migraines and ‘flu.

We get the hot flushes, and they get the hot tempers. We feel tired, and they feel exhausted. Our valiant male is less inclined to want to leave the TV set , and go out these days, and as the family are probably at an age where baby sitters are not needed, now is the time to give him some gentle prompting.

A brisk walk after dinner is great for both of you, and if you like animals, it’s a good idea to get a dog, as he will make sure his beloved owner takes him out every day, come rain or shine. At weekends you can go out together, and make the walks longer, and you’ll be surprised how much you can find to say to each other, when not competing with the TV set.

If you feel really ambitious, you can go to an evening class together, maybe take up a sport like table tennis or badminton, swimming, or anything else you enjoy. After your initial awkwardness wears off, the exhilaration you both experience will amaze you, and you’ll probably wonder why you didn’t do it before.

As our man goes into this new phase of his life, he realises it’s not so bad after all. His family are growing up and going their own way. His wife is proving she is still young at heart, and they can still have a lot of fun together, and he realises he has a lot more living to do, and he’s not ready to sit down and grow old yet.

Before you know it, his ” mid life crisis” has passed, and you’ve been so busy worrying about him, that you’ve had no time to notice yours. You’re both looking forward to this time together that you rightfully deserve.