The virginity is a result of the obnoxious behavior, but where did the behavior come from?
There are people who are openly, even proudly virginal. This has nothing to do with them. Obviously retaining an ignorance of the sex act is am individual’s personal business. If it suits your aesthetic and/or religious belief, cool. There now exists a certain slight glamor associated with male virginity that did not exist anywhere in our culture 20 years ago. For it to have this very slight glamor, though, it has to be because you are a socially awkward geek with nerdy obsessions and (technical) skills, not because you are just too unattractive and too broke to afford to pay for sex. It has to have an aura of “having better things to do with your time”, otherwise it’s just pathetic.
There is the Internet for the socially awkward, there is the fact that the majority of women are more “sexually liberated” than at anytime in human history. There are many ways to meet women who might be interested in you, no matter how unpalatable you are. If you are an adult virgin, and your virginity is not a conscious decision, you are quite possibly the most pathetic person who ever lived. Here is what might be keeping you that way:
Absurdly High Standards
Otherwise known as “sour grapes”. (Reluctant) male virgins need excuses for why they are not getting any. These are not excuses to other people, but firstly to themselves. As with all human problems it’s always somebody else’s fault. For these guys it’s the fault of the women around them for being too dumb, too fat, too prissy, too, too slutty, too everything, and that’s they won’t approach them.
Intense, Wild, Overly-Exuberant Lust
Sometimes trying too hard to get something can drive it away. I am pretty sure that most women find the intense, single-minded eagerness by an inexperienced man, unattractive. The smell of desperation from somebody seeking to throw off a burden completely distracts from any other assets that person may have. Apart from the fact that it makes actually getting sex that much more difficult, there is would much pressure that even if she did actually grant the wish, it probably would not work out the way it did in your fantasies.
An Understanding of Sex Coming Entirely from Porn
This will come up in discussions about women and sex. If every reference they use is from something you have seen on a screen that almost never happens in real life, you can be pretty certain that they have never seen or touched a real live naked woman. For one thing, the sexual positions in porn are chosen for efficient camera-work, not for maximum pleasure. The sex in porn is not like real sex at all, and can be both intimidating and raise expectations to unrealistic levels.
Which is not to say that all misogynists are virgins, but most reluctant virgins tend to hate women. They already assume they are going to be rejected, and spend their time making mental retorts. To make the sting of the imagined rejection softer they have to objectify women as much as possible. Reducing them to an amalgam of orifices makes their rejection, trivial, easier to take. Nobody cares if they are rejected by an air-headed sex-object. Of course, this doesn’t work, nothing softens the blows, but they keep trying, till eventually, even after they are no longer virgins, they have no way to connect to women, or to see them as equals.
Thinking Cartoons are “Aexy”
It’s a drawing. It was invented the mind of somebody else (most likely a guy) and drawn. You cannot have sex with it. For virgins the line between sex and fantasy sex get blurred so that everything exists in the imagination. If you find yourself longing after graphics on your computer screen or in a comic book, you need to find some real-world interaction. You are on your way to a life of permanent frustration.