A Military Love

  Having the love of a soldier, is never an easy heart to hold. Dealing with leaving their loved ones, children, and friends. The stress and tension is high, the fears tug at their hearts. Afraid of what is to come and to leave so much behind. Having a soldier’s heart; it needs to be held tight, kept close, and kept alive. The morals get low and spirits disappear, facing fears that most could never imagine… This is never an easy task.
  As a wife, girlfriend, or a fiance; The need for love from you, is all the ask in return for protecting so much. Yes, holding tight to their heart takes so much, they trust you. Knowing that each time you part, can bring you both closer together. Consider keeping in mind the three C’s; Courage, Commitment, and Communication. Understanding what each of these means, can help you get through this. 
  One of the best things to understand, is NEVER hang up the phone or end a conversation on a bad note. Tomorrow is never promised to anyone, always work out the problem when it comes along. It is natural to feel distant toward your loved one; feeling angry, hurt, or upset. We all go through it! Most of us call it the “Mind Games”, happening when we have to leave our new friends, or our loved one is being deployed…It happens to lessen the pain. You cannot keep pushing away those you love and care about, you will end up losing everything. That is why they invented the phone and computer, along with the age old letters.
  Remember, the little things do matter…Even the thought counts. Most of us understand how hard this can be, how scary it is, and know that we cannot take for granted those things that could be taken away. Not only is this hard on you both, but the children (if there are) have a hard time with this too. Wondering when daddy will be home, or if mommy will be back in time for the big moments. The stress falls on them too, when you are crying and upset, sometimes you may take it out on them. You cannot do this, they are just children, missing the same person you are.

  It takes so much to love someone who is always away, I know, I have dealt with this for almost a year now. I have spent nights crying alone, laying in bed wondering if he is okay, even feeling the anticipation of waiting for him to get off the plane. To see is worn face on a computer web cam; his smile, his bright eyes seeing me or his girls for the first time in quite a while. All of the pain in the world disappears when you get to hold them once more, kiss their lips… Not many people could understand this feeling. It is not like a week long business trip, where you can just call them. We do not get that option.
  My heart goes out to those who have done this before me, I look up to your strength. For those who will follow behind us, keep your heads up and your heart strong, filled with love. There is nothing in this world more important then feeling their love embracing you once more. Strength lies in the heart! It is more then worth the wait.