Stay Away From Vampires

This is not an easy task, especially, if you’re a kind, gentle person, always ready to help, to listen and show compassion. But not only then. Even if you’re angry, nervous and short-tempered, energy vampires will get their dose from you as well.

How is it happening?

All they need is to fuel up with your energy. For the good for the bad. You can be kind and compassionate or angry and shouting – they will get it either way. The moment you dedicate attention to the vampire, react to his words and get yourself involved into a dialogue, be sure you’re being sucked out.

At the beginning, you may not even notice that something is wrong. If you’re a joyful, hilarious person, there is enough energy to feed up a few vampires without feeling any sort of disorder. But as time passes by, you’ll see that after being in touch with a vampire, you suddenly feel worn out. After a short conversation with this person, you are  tired and weak. You need to lay down and rest.

These are obvious signs of energy leak. Look for its source. It might be someone you spend time with on a regular basis, like a family member or a close friend. Unbelievable, how relatives, who seem to be the kindest people, suck our powers out. They only want good, they only come for advice, they only want to have a small talk. A small piece of you, day by day.

The next question is, what can you do with a vampire? If it’s a colleague, a neighbour or a far relative, the answer is simple. Stay away from this person as much as you can and don’t let him or her dog you along your life. But what if it is your own mother? Your spouse? Your childhood friend?

People don’t just become vampires in a day. This is a process that takes time and usually occurs when something very bad had happened to the said vampire. A strong reason underlies “vampire-like” behaviour. This reason is – lack of their own power, their own energy, their own positivity. So these miserable folks seek it elsewhere. It happens naturally, these people haven’t got the slightest clue they are harming someone. They try to restore the balance. On your account.

When your closest life companions become energy-suckers and you feel your intercourse becomes unbearable, start going down the slope. You cannot cut down the relationship between you and your parents, between you and your spouse. But you can slow it down and give yourself some time to think it over.

My friend’s mother became an energy vampire. She called her several times a day, asking what’s up, asking for advice, asking for help, asking for action, Basically, asking for energy. My friend could not reject her mom, but she also couldn’t stand the pressure any longer. She became nervous, restless and jittery. When asked what’s wrong with her, she couldn’t even tell it herself. She didn’t understand where it was coming from. Until one day, her mom was busy and hadn’t called her for a day. Jenny, my friend, suddenly realized how great it is, to spend a day with no interruptions, without “getting yourself into somebody’s situation”, trying to help, to solve, to assist. After all, she’s got her own life with her own complex situations, problems and issues.

How did Jenny get out of it? Asking her mom to reduce the number of phone calls would be ineffective. She simply made her responses brief, explaining her mom that she was very busy at the moment. Not letting her dig in, and not getting herself into long, exhausting conversations.

This was a successful tactics, and now Jenny gets along with her mom perfectly, neither feels mistreated or dissatisfied. Jenny’s mom still calls her several times a day, but these calls have lost their toxic flavour.