Expectations
by People’s expectations.
Living up to people’s expectation of you is not always an easy thing to do. Some people just form this image of you and then run to you whenever they are in a jam expecting you to get them out of it. At first, it is flattering that they even thought of you but as time goes on, it becomes a burden and even fosters resentment. You did not deliberately lead the person to believe that you were perfect or that you would always help out but somehow they just think that. Whenever you can not help and tell them so, they do not believe you and they think that you just do not want to help.
Sometimes the best thing to do is actually not help. This is because the more you help the more dependent they become on you and you would become a crutch. Helping them would not make them stretch and everybody needs to stretch at one time or the other in their lives to enable them grow. You will hinder their growth if you do not make them stretch. This should not be an excuse not to help people. I’m talking about people who have become so dependent on you that they do not even want to try anything out; they want everything handed over to them on a platter.
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Post CommentCHIPMUNK
On April 20, 2011 at 12:10 pm
well said like this one
Christine Ramsay
On April 20, 2011 at 1:53 pm
An interesting piece. I think it would be better to make them do it themselves while you guide them through, so they will know what to do next time.
sanataryal
On April 20, 2011 at 2:01 pm
Potential piece of writing.Thnx for sharingf with us.
sanaahmed
On April 20, 2011 at 4:43 pm
nice article
V rank
On April 20, 2011 at 10:12 pm
I think I am that kind of person who easily offers help to other people… That is why until now, people would always call me whenever they need something to get done. I enjoyed it but you are right about not being of so much help to hinder them from “stretching” as you said…
Dreamy777
On April 22, 2011 at 10:22 am
great one
solidadah
On April 24, 2011 at 10:56 am
helping is a good deed. just help those people who are worthy of your help.
AdidasVanilla
On May 11, 2011 at 7:34 am
Hmm…we all know there’s a difference between what we say and what we actually do. Sometimes we try to sound nice because that’s what we think is right….whatever you want people to think of you is often what happens, and it can come back to you.