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Get Rid of Being Self Conscious

Are you constantly stressing over your appearance or how other people see you? Do you think everyone is staring at you and judging you? Chances are they aren’t. You are just self conscious. Here are a few ways to deal with being self conscious.

?The whole world is staring at me! I must have a huge zit on my face. Did I gain weight? Are people staring at my huge thunder thighs?? Many of us are constantly worried about our appearances or the perception of ourselves to others. Being self conscious can get in the way of our daily lives and inflict mental damage onto ourselves.

By being self conscious, we can easily be distracted from our activities to worry about our appearance or self image. Being in a constant stage of self consciousness can easily lead to depression and can be very annoying. In some cases, being self conscious can lead to destructive feelings. By using some of the methods provided, the feeling of being self conscious can become a distant memory.

Remember What is Important to You

Keep in mind that the opinions of others on your self image, personality, or appearance are what they are. They are just opinions. You are your own person, they do not control you. If you personally like what you were wearing or how you acted, do not let the opinions of others affect your decisions in the future. As long as you like whatever you are doing, the opinions of others should not matter.


Usually, you only see the imperfections in yourself while others cannot see anything at all. Chances are, you may not be stressing over anything. If you have trouble with remembering what is important to you or if you have trouble being confident on how you look or act, look for support from others. Block the negative comments and listen to the positive ones. Listen to the comments from the people that are most close to you. Your best friends or your family members. Your loved ones will tell you the truth if you look them in the eye and ask for a sincere answer.


Empathy, is to imagine yourself in someone else’s shoes. If you are worried about how you look, use empathy. Ask yourself ?If I saw someone else wearing that skirt, what would I say? What would I think? Would it even matter to me? Would I even care?? That is one effective way to overcome being self conscience. Ask the simple question, ?Would I even care?? chances are, when you realize it, the situation that you are stressing over becomes a funny situation. Most of the time, the situations we stress over the most are the situations that others never take notice of.

Self Consciousness, Just a Memory

By following the methods, your self consciousness will soon disappear. If the feeling does not go right away, that is fine. Remind yourself of these methods whenever you feel that you are beginning to feel self conscious. All you need to do is to remind yourself of your positive traits. Overcoming self consciousness is different for everyone. For some people it may come right away, for others it may take longer. Sooner or later the feeling of being self conscious will be a thing of the past.

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  1. Jackie

    On August 10, 2007 at 3:04 am

    Thank you so much. Really.

  2. Ben

    On August 23, 2007 at 8:59 pm

    Being really self-conscious is an absolute killer. Thanks for this advice.

  3. Amelia

    On September 24, 2008 at 3:45 pm

    Thank you, this is a big help…I’m in eighth grade and always thinking about how I look. The thing that I’m most self conscious about is if i have food in my teeth!.or food on my especially self conscious around boys…im gunna use ur tips.

  4. Taylor

    On November 17, 2008 at 2:25 am

    thank you so much. im 17 and i’ve been battling with self consciousness/shyness for all my life and i finally broke out of my shell and discovered my soul should be portrayed through me and not bottled up inside me. thank you.

  5. helen

    On November 24, 2008 at 4:42 am

    iam on prozac since a month to overcome this problem,
    little improvment is there but do u think its gonna work out?

  6. Faye

    On January 21, 2009 at 12:42 am

    thank you soo much! im in 8th grade and i am constantly worried about how i look/what other people think about me. Whenever I get constuctive critisism and.or insults I get really self concious and end up askin my friends what they think. It’s a burden on me and I know it’s a burden on my friends, but I can’t help it. I will use these tips and see if they work. THanks again!

  7. tom

    On May 12, 2009 at 12:31 am

    to those in eighth grade, you should know that everybody is super duper extra extra EXTRA big time self conscious at your age and even through high school for most of us. i’m 22 now and i’m still self conscious, but much less than when i was younger.

    remember: this is YOUR life!! it is nobody elses. you will NEVER have access to somebody else’s mind, only your own! You will spend your ENTIRE life existing in your own mind, surrounded by your own thoughts, and being in the same body, so you might as well start getting comfortable with yourself. i hope this helps. =)

    also, try imagining that other people might be (and probably are) feeling self conscious. Try to make THEM feel comfortable. While worrying about them and making them feel good, you will forget about yourself. You will also make them reciprocate these good intentions to you, and you will feel loved.

    Short answer: LOVE the ones that you fear! This is the meaning of life!

  8. LynneAnneMarie

    On May 14, 2009 at 4:23 pm

    This saved my life

    Thank you to everyone that submitted.

  9. Criss Angel

    On July 11, 2009 at 8:16 am

    Hope this stuff works!So many suggestions that can be put into practise.One of them will surely help me break the shackles of self-consciousness of my incarcerated mind.Hope then I can better focus on my television show “MINDFREAK”.

  10. Ajesh Sehrawat

    On November 1, 2012 at 10:01 am

    i personaly have self conciousness in me since my childhood
    i m a 6,ft guy with good looks but i was not familier with what
    is goin at my surrounding. i can be noticed very easily so any time i move out i find people looking at me which makes me loose my confident also when i talk with some gud lukin girl i find myself in very low state though i m gud luking but i m never able to represent me the way i m. i do silly thing try and make up things.which ends up making me sad. for a period of time i got into drugs and i really need help my name is mention above and the ph. no.:7838021421

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