Mommy Anger Moment

There are times in motherhood when you couldn’t simply ignore your children attempts of testing your patient. I felt them and I fell into them many times. Being angry is not wrong and part of human traits. A mother too is allowed to be angry. Society become so judgmental when it comes to an angry mother that caused an accident to the children but closing eye to what’s behind. I know that angry mother could be dangerous to the children at the point of hitting, pinching, etc. and that’s why I decided from the first time I got angry with my little one I will simply left him on the safe place and stay away from him. God knows what will happen if I stayed close to them while I tend to burst out. I will get a magazine, do chores or have a scoop of ice cream to cool down. When I’m ready to see him again I will come out. This may seemed cruel for some people but if you were only alone with your little one, it’s the safest way. We could not and should not demand a mother to be a fairy god mother all the time. What’s should be included in the thoughts is the safety of both party. So when a mother is angry (which is bound to happens once in a while) I will definitely suggest this. Put your children somewhere safe (i.e. in the room) and get away. Find other way to defuse the anger before you get back. For me, treating myself with my favorite food or doing chores usually help to reduce anger to the point of smiling back at the culprit and say a prayer, “God forgive me for being angry, but I’m human and You should know better what I’m capable and what I am not. Thank you for keeping my child safe. Amen.” For other women (or men) it could be something else such as gardening, taking hot shower or shopping. Just don’t forget to make up with your children when you get back. But if you feel that you are unable to deal with it on your own, seek help. It will be best for you and the rest of the family.