The Truth About Attraction

THE TRUTH ABOUT ATTRACTION

By

Catherine Lee

Much is being written and said (and joked about) about Tiger Woods and his many mistresses and affairs when anyone could see he had an incredibly beautiful wife at home.

Apparently it was more a case of him seeking out them than vice versa and you have to wonder why…why isn’t one or two gorgeous “mates” enough?

But the truth is, he didn’t do anything many other men don’t  do, particularly if they have a lot of money, power and opportunity…and of course this can go for women as well.  Would he had gone out (or stayed in) with an ugly woman, an overweight woman, an older woman…? Not likely. He talked about these women, everyone in the know knew about them and  each was like a beautiful flower…probably as close to “perfect” as humans get  but apparently none alone was sufficient to keep his constant interest and devotion.

This is nothing new, of course. Check the senators, congressmen, governors, executives, actors, and ordinary guys who have found “other women” so irresistible they risked everything for dalliances they must have realized would be exposed, and these days exposed big time.

Hollywood, model agencies and guys who hang out in bars would have you think the only kind of woman to be seen with is “perfect”…maybe size 2 with long hair, big eyes, Angelina Jolie lips and perhaps moderate but shapely breasts.  And there are lots of women today who fit that mold.

These men also tend to ignore the truth about themselves…that sometimes they aren’t perfect, yet they have a disturbing habit of ignoring their own appearance and demanding perfection from girls.

The truth is, if these guys were right, all brides and grooms would look like some version of Ken and Barbie and they would never be happy unless their own Barbie was a dream of a girl…and often times, that’s not enough. Unhappy alliances abound among the beautiful, rich, famous and fortunate.

But did you ever think about this? How many ugly couples have you seen…together, in love, and happy, yet many perfect girls and even perfect guys for that matter live in depression, cry themselves to sleep, go through life at half mast because they can’t find love.

You can go to an internet dating site and find someone but check back a couple years later and keep tabs on how many are still together. So you filled out a paper that tells the “truth” about you. How many people lie on these papers?  I know I learned long ago to tailor the responses to what I knew the questioner wanted me to say.  It’s like the people who say they enjoy long walks on the sand and deep, meaningful conversations. While in truth, most sandy beaches get deserted at twilight except for the people who like to sneak out for love making in the sand, and most people are in a club, in a house, in a room, eating, drinking, sleeping, having sex or trimming their toenails and not doing anything particularly  meaningful.