We often hear people talk about their desire to help others, especially so, attached to their wishes of financial windfalls. This on a surface this may seem like a noble ambition, however, this mindset on a subconscious level may be quite harmful. If you believe that wishes, prayers, hopes and dreams can come true, and have dreams of helping others, then what you are doing is creating a situation of somebody in need. This is in no way, shape, or form, a good thing. It is a very negative thing. Is your desire to help, more important than the well being of those you want to help? I believe this type of mindset of charity addiction manifests much strife into the world. The desire to help others, may impart disasters on others, so that there are always people to help

If you are a person of this mindset you may respond “But, I like to help others, it makes me feel good.”, or “It’s my spiritual duty to help others, God requires it of us.”. These are the two most common statements by people of this mindset. Let us look at each of these statements.

“But, I like to help others. It makes me feel good.”

In a statement like this, where is the focus? It is on the I and the me. “I like” and “makes me”. The “help others” is lost somewhere between the implied self gratification and glorification. It is a selfish statement plain and simple. If you take this statement and apply it to Laws of Attraction it becomes a diabolical one because a person of this mindset is attracting adverse situations to others so that they can feel good by helping others out of those same situations.

“It’s my spiritual duty to help others. God requires it of us.”

This is all well and good until you start praying for the opportunity to “help others”. When you do this you are in essence praying for someone to have problems so that you can perform your perceived spiritual duty. This is not a very spiritual action at all. If you see, or hear, about a need, helping is required not only by spiritual decree, it is also a part of being human. Praying that you will be directed to those in need, is most likely creating those needs. Praying that a solution to a pre-existing problem is good, but praying for an increase in YOUR finances so that YOU can go about “helping others” is careless and irresponsible. This will most likely create a problem where one did not exist, or compound to existing problems, to fulfill your selfish prayer of “helping others”.

Guilt Over Desires

I believe that some people have a degree of guilt over their desires for abundance in the financial area. They dream of getting rich through a windfall, or through success in their profession, they dream of having the nice car, the nice home, etc. yet think they have to temper this with “helping others”. So they start telling others about their intention of striving for financial reward, so they can help others. If it just stayed there it might not be so harmful. However, Laws of Attraction come into play when people start telling God or The Universe in their intention. When they start bringing this guilt into their prayers, visualizations, and meditations and their focus is so willy nilly and random it can cause havoc to everyone around them.

Mother Hen or Father Christmas

Others of this mindset are just plain wired this way for one or another reasons of past history or brain chemistry. Mother Hen types always praying for more people to help and would be Santa’s are dreaming of new people in need to give to. What’s wrong with this? Nothing if the Mother Hen just wants to bake pies to make people happy. Nothing if the would be Santa wants to give gifts to everyone. When these types start praying, visualizing, or even day dreaming about NEEDY people to help they put out a vibration to create needy people and that just is not cool. Don’t be greedy for the needy.

Is Helping Others Wrong?

Helping others is a good thing. Praying for random people to help is not. Visualizing financial windfall to “help others” is not good. Daydreaming about needy people to come into your life so you can help them is wrong. Let me say this again, DO NOT BE GREEDY FOR THE NEEDY!

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Cornucopia drawing, from Wikemedia, Abundance for All.

How to Really Help Others

If you really want to help others then try these better options. Pray for abundance for all. Visualize good things for yourself and your family. If you do come across someone with a need, help them, and forget about it. Do not get a high from helping someone out of a bad situation. That will only create more bad situations and get you addicted to the high of helping. The charity addiction is one tough monkey to get off your back. You have no bragging rights when you help others in need, that is just a part of being human. No bragging rights at all, even to yourself. If you are a person who daydreams about getting a financial windfall, or business success, so that you can start to help people out I suggest you just quit that mental BS and volunteer somewhere where you can help people out right now. Daydreaming about financial windfalls and business success is fine as long as you limit those dreams to making life better for your immediate family and let others have their own dreams.