Patience (They Say) is a Virtue. Do You Ever Believe on It?

People say things to make you feel better. When something bad happens, someone will tell you it happened for a reason. A reason that is so ominous and omniscient you should stop asking about it and just learn to live with what ensues next.

Impatience

When you can’t wait any longer, they say “patience, my friend, is a virtue.” But honestly, do you ever believe on it?

It seems right, and it feels right, though somehow the “patience” talk doesn’t help one bit to comfort you at night. Is it a new work pending an application? Maybe it was that test of yours a week before you’ve been waiting to see the results. You just can’t stop thinking about it.

No matter how many times anyone (or even yourself) has told you “patience, dear friend, is a virtue” it doesn’t seem to work.

The Science of Waiting

Psychologically speaking, the human mind is built to worry for a certain degree then let go when it finds the answer it was looking for. Also, shrinks (as you may call them) imply that it is normal to feel worse than uncomfortable. The generic chain of thought goes like, there’s a question you want answered, but you are too scared to hear the answer.

Scenarios

Take for example, a suspicion you are holding against your girlfriend. Being the guy in such situation makes it more complicated (sociologists say) mainly because the male population is instinctively full of rage. The waiting process escalates that fear, and drives men crazy to the point that they cloud their judgement and reason becomes invisible.

For this, girls should never leave men out cold. Guys should always be in the know. You are lucky if he tells you he is jealous, because then the suspicion doesn’t pent up, and he gets a straight answer.

Girls, on the other hand, rarely get affected by the waiting syndrome. Why so? Because whenever a girl suspects you cheating, it’s mostly true.

Back to being impatient

Break ups aren’t the only side-effects of impatience. Emotional distress never leaves the room. One becomes highly irritable, moody, and troubled. An inflicted person tends to get his work compromised as well, his family, and everything that revolves around him.

Impatience is normal, but you should see what it is doing to you. You should fight it. Stop thinking about it. In some cases, it helps to keep yourself preoccupied. Sometimes it’s good to meet the answer face to face, without cowering.

If time is the enemy and even if no one believes it…repeat to yourself, “patience, my friend, is a virtue.“