Anxious Personality and Paranoid

Of course, we all have personality traits that help make our behaviors and fairly predictable reactions to others or to ourselves. As indicated in the two authors of the book “How to handle difficult people? ”*” Personality traits are characterized by the usual ways in which one perceives his environment and his own person, and standard ways to behave and react. “ The adjectives that describe the personality traits were varied: authoritarian, sociable, outgoing, generous, impulsive, patient, serious, passionate, and so on.

What is a difficult personality?

The “personality trait” is therefore a way of life but does not reduce our way of being in this respect. So, my boss may have some authority, provided it is not always an authoritarian in any place and at any time. However, if such a person is suspicious and can not get rid of this distrust, (or can not help but imagine that he still wants the caller of evil), whatever the circumstances of his life and his meetings, then we can say that his personality is dominated by mistrust. Personality becomes very difficult “when certain features of his character are too marked, too rigid, inappropriate situations, and causing pain to oneself or to others (or both).”

Portrait of a few difficult personalities

With this definition, two psychiatrists have painted the portrait of some profiles of difficult personalities. A few brief touches to get to know two of them.

Anxious personality is always concerned

Typically, this is a person who tends to worry for all, for herself and her family. She imagines most often the worst outcome in all situations of daily life and still considers the potential risks of any action before a glimpse of the positive side. She lives in a state of permanent tension, allowing it to increase its vigilance against this environment it lives as disturbing and even dangerous. In its relations with others, anxious personality may be somewhat invasive in its propensity to always assume the worst (not just for herself!) And his greedy and need to be eternally dissatisfied rassurée.Evidemment be anxious featuressome benefits. For example, if your spouse (e) has this type of temperament, you can count on him (her) to always pay bills in a timely manner and to ensure that your bank account is not short! With an anxious personality, better to have tact. Avoid, for example, too share your own concerns (it is in any case unlikely to happens to reassure you, however!) And take care of n

The paranoid personality is wary of the worst and the best

The “paranoid” is suspicious of everyone and everything, and often suspect other bad intentions. He has a hard time trusting. He has a tendency to interpret all situations as the result of malicious acts. For example, if the phone shuts off when I’m with him, he imagines him as soon as I hung up, not that my laptop is simply a battery failure. Do not bother trying to convince him otherwise, he firmly believes its interpretation! In fact, this mistrust makes permanent “rigid” in its relations with others. He has a hard time to share his emotions, preferring to emphasize its logic, rational mind. He also speaks with a certain coldness, which can sometimes be perceived by its stakeholders as indifference or contempt. This lack of warmth and communication skills of paranoia is often responsible for negative reactions from those around him that eventually keep him away, if it shows, especially in labor, signs of hostility. Therefore, the loop is closed paranoid: he has good reason to be wary of all and consider them a priori as enemies, since it actually hostile! However, in small doses, a bit of paranoia is often necessary. This allows us not to believe necessarily come first, not “we do have” the trader is about to sell us a much overvalued, or the plumber came first we propose to change all the piping so that it’s just a clogged sink!