Assimilation by Association
by Have you ever found yourself in a room full of people and suddenly find you are acting just like them even though it is out of character for you? Have you ever heard someone say about another, oh she or he won’t ever amount to anything, look at the parents, or they were born on the wrong side of the track? Sometimes that happens but it is not right and it is not fair. We assimilate our character from the associations we have in our life. Read more…
ASSIMILATION BY ASSOCIATION
We are what we repeatedly do, right or wrong, good for us or bad for us. If we constantly associate our self with things that are not good then I can assure you that no good will come to you. On the other hand, if we associate our self with the things that are good, healthy and righteous then good will come. Our lives get caught in the association trap, for better or worse. The choice is ours and our future is determined by the habits we develop.
Our life assimilates that with which we are consistently associated. Children learn what they live and adults do what other adults do within the circle they keep; assimilation by association. Whether these associations will promote a healthy and happy future for us may not occur to us until it is too late because it is what we know and it has become our way of life, our habit and even if deep down we know something is wrong with the picture but we settle for it. It becomes okay in our own mind set unless we can break the cycle, desire to get beyond circumstance and develop new and better habits.
How we live is determined by the habits we develop, right or wrong, good or bad; but habits can be both made and broken. You are what you repeatedly do, what has become your habit. You decide your habits but it is your habits that decide your future. It is all a matter of choice.
Just a small example: I had dinner not long ago with a group of people I don’t hang out with on a regular basis but found myself obligated to participate in this setting for a short time. I was very uncomfortable but the uncomfortable soon got pushed aside because of a bad choice on my part. I wanted to be accepted, feel like part of the crowd.
The dinner was fine and for a short while everything went well and then the conversation turned to telling dirty jokes, foul language, touchy-feely behavior and a lot of gossip. I didn’t get involved right off. I tried to just brush it off. I should have just left, but I didn’t and the next thing I knew I was laughing too, gossiping and even made a couple crude remarks. Assimilation, things I wouldn’t quickly became that which I did.
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Post CommentLerinti Sorin
On March 13, 2011 at 1:26 pm
nice post
Angelgirlpj
On March 13, 2011 at 8:04 pm
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Phil 4:8″
Good article
Tulan
On March 13, 2011 at 9:43 pm
Sometimes we are caught by surprise and don’t know what is the proper thing to do. Maybe we should speak out and say we don’t like it.
Lynn Hollis
On March 14, 2011 at 12:13 am
I still have a teen in the house and I am always telling her about her associations – to watch the company she keeps. But I can think of many times in my adult life when I could have made better choices also. Great article.
CVSivaprakashan
On March 14, 2011 at 3:39 am
Great article. True that our association will assimilate into ourselves. Still it is often obligatory to associate.
Hendrik
On March 14, 2011 at 8:15 am
Good!
giritharanj
On March 15, 2011 at 7:55 am
nice share
Norma
On March 16, 2011 at 6:12 pm
Yes, we can become as those we assoiciate with and lose our own idenity if we aren’t careful. Very good write.
Norma