Assimilation by Association
by Have you ever found yourself in a room full of people and suddenly find you are acting just like them even though it is out of character for you? Have you ever heard someone say about another, oh she or he won’t ever amount to anything, look at the parents, or they were born on the wrong side of the track? Sometimes that happens but it is not right and it is not fair. We assimilate our character from the associations we have in our life. Read more…
You assimilate that which you associate yourself with for better or worse. Our personality, our behavior, assimilates, assumes to take on the character of those things, the people, the society around us and the living habits we develop because of those associations.
It is all too easy to get caught up in the world around us. If you consistently hang out with people who buy, use, sell drugs before long you will find yourself doing the same thing, just to fit in, or at the very least you will be seen by others outside that circle as being the same. This goes for alcohol and free sex, open marriage, and all those other things as well.
Just because your parents, grandparents, an aunt or an uncle did something that was not socially acceptable does not mean you have to follow that same pattern, even if others outside this group assume you will be “just like them,” you can make the choice to not follow the same path or develop those habits. If the crowd I am hanging with is dragging me down and holding me back from following my own dream and being all I can be then I need to change my association, change my bad habits for good habits.
You are what you repeatedly do in all aspects of your life. You decide and practice your habits and your habits will determine your future. We are each personally responsible and accountable for our own actions, the habits we develop that make us who we are. You don’t have to follow the crowd, do what they do. It makes no difference if you are rich or poor, famous or an unknown, those things with which we consistently associate our self will assimilate into the character we become.
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Post CommentLerinti Sorin
On March 13, 2011 at 1:26 pm
nice post
Angelgirlpj
On March 13, 2011 at 8:04 pm
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Phil 4:8″
Good article
Tulan
On March 13, 2011 at 9:43 pm
Sometimes we are caught by surprise and don’t know what is the proper thing to do. Maybe we should speak out and say we don’t like it.
Lynn Hollis
On March 14, 2011 at 12:13 am
I still have a teen in the house and I am always telling her about her associations – to watch the company she keeps. But I can think of many times in my adult life when I could have made better choices also. Great article.
CVSivaprakashan
On March 14, 2011 at 3:39 am
Great article. True that our association will assimilate into ourselves. Still it is often obligatory to associate.
Hendrik
On March 14, 2011 at 8:15 am
Good!
giritharanj
On March 15, 2011 at 7:55 am
nice share
Norma
On March 16, 2011 at 6:12 pm
Yes, we can become as those we assoiciate with and lose our own idenity if we aren’t careful. Very good write.
Norma