Decrease Rivalries with Other

Whether at work, family, friends or even couples, rivalries occur too often in interpersonal relations and affect communication as much understanding. Where are the rivalries? How can we realize? How can we decline to do in our relationships with others? Here are some ways to better understand this phenomenon in order to cope effectively.

Where are the rivalries?

Rivalries come first with a powerful sentiment of jealousy. In a complex world where resources are limited, it is natural to doubt our ability to respond to all requests. The others are they better than us? Do they have qualities and skills that are alien to us? We ask lots of questions specific to question our ability to be recognized and to meet our needs.

At work, if you have ever had (on) a colleague who was trying to capture your ideas or efforts, trying to please the boss at all costs, it is likely that colleague you perceived as a threat and actions were essentially evict you …

Here is a list of a size that arouse rivalries:

1. Differences in social status (outside of work) and rank in an organization (at work). Those who occupy high social rank are more vulnerable. They are most admired and most envied by those who would like to be them …

2. Salary. In our society of consumption, wages are associated with the purchasing power which, itself, is a sign of prestige. I leave you to conclude …

3. The social ease and extroversion. The extroverts often occupy a prominent place in interpersonal relationships. If they are funny and smart, these people are more likely to arouse jealousy than those who do pipent word!

4. Physical appearance. The rivalry is deeply rooted in our biological dimension (the most beautiful people are more likely to obtain benefits and to reproduce), it is not surprising that physical appearance plays a significant role in the outbreak of rivalry …

How to manifest this form of jealousy?

Rivalry and jealousy come from a fear of losing something and lack of confidence in our abilities or our capabilities. In other words, a person who fears nothing and is satisfied with what she has in her life will not be extended to other jealous.

The rivalry is usually manifested by a significant change in the usual behavior of a person. Here are some examples:

- It can become aggressive and irritable. In such cases, attacks can be directed directly against you.

- It can be sad and dejected. This reaction is the discouragement that is connected to the fact that another person wanted it deems superior. Discouragement is that it does not feel able to “win” …

- Hypocrisy. This strategy may be to diminish the person you are him / her opponent (s) in the eyes of others to undermine his credibility.

It goes without saying that any form of rivalry, when designed to “kill” another person, is a way of fundamentally unhealthy relationship that is destroying the foundations of trust and respect. It is best to always focus on what others can make constructive and focus more to increase his confidence and self esteem to avoid envying others. It is our happiness!