Comments on: Divorce, Life Stressors and the Aftermath http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/ Sun, 22 Nov 2009 21:57:09 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: CHAN LEE PENG http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-179320 CHAN LEE PENG Fri, 23 Oct 2009 15:16:31 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-179320 It's hard for those who went through this process. Anyway, good read here, thanks. It’s hard for those who went through this process. Anyway, good read here, thanks.

]]> By: Hein Marais http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49629 Hein Marais Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:53:14 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49629 This subject can be debated for years. This subject can be debated for years.

]]> By: Glynis Smy http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49627 Glynis Smy Wed, 04 Feb 2009 12:20:53 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49627 There are some who need to divorce for the sake of the children and those who should 'try harder' at the marriage. Interesting article. I am blessed with a happy marriage but it takes work. If divorce occurs and children are involved then there should be an attempt at keeping a happy front in front of the little ones. There are some who need to divorce for the sake of the children and those who should ‘try harder’ at the marriage. Interesting article. I am blessed with a happy marriage but it takes work. If divorce occurs and children are involved then there should be an attempt at keeping a happy front in front of the little ones.

]]> By: papaleng http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49625 papaleng Wed, 04 Feb 2009 09:27:45 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49625 Though divorce is not allowed in our country instead annulment takes it places, nevertheless the result is still the same, marriage separation is indeed traumatic to each member of the family, and the pain it caused did took time to heal.. a very interesting article. Though divorce is not allowed in our country instead annulment takes it places, nevertheless the result is still the same, marriage separation is indeed traumatic to each member of the family, and the pain it caused did took time to heal.. a very interesting article.

]]> By: RJ Chamberlain http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49623 RJ Chamberlain Wed, 04 Feb 2009 07:05:21 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49623 Interesting read Chris. Haven't experienced divorce myself but have seen what it can do to people, children especially.<br /> <br /> RJ Interesting read Chris. Haven’t experienced divorce myself but have seen what it can do to people, children especially.

RJ

]]> By: BC Doan http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49621 BC Doan Sun, 01 Feb 2009 10:30:51 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49621 Interesting read, and I'm still living in the case of "Debra and John", where the other person feels like he's still a part of my life, even after 8 years! When a child is involved, the relationship never ends... Interesting read, and I’m still living in the case of “Debra and John”, where the other person feels like he’s still a part of my life, even after 8 years! When a child is involved, the relationship never ends…

]]> By: Karen Gross http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49619 Karen Gross Sun, 01 Feb 2009 09:25:21 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49619 Just by watching my friends' marriages, and by seeing firsthand the devastation caused by divorce, not only to the couple and their children, but also to the church family; I am convinced that divorce is a greater stressor than widowhood. When a spouse dies, there is grief with closure, and the church rallies around the surviving spouse. In a divorce, especially where children are involved, there is never closure. Rarely do both spouses continue to attend our church, but there is awkwardness, loyalty issues, and as great as our church family is, there will always be at least a perceived judgement that the couple could have worked it out if they had tried harder. In our church, there have been situations where a spouse going through divorce is asked to step down from visible ministries - which can be an even harsher blow. There is a reason why God hates divorce - it has far reaching effects for the family, the extended family, and the church community. Just by watching my friends’ marriages, and by seeing firsthand the devastation caused by divorce, not only to the couple and their children, but also to the church family; I am convinced that divorce is a greater stressor than widowhood. When a spouse dies, there is grief with closure, and the church rallies around the surviving spouse. In a divorce, especially where children are involved, there is never closure. Rarely do both spouses continue to attend our church, but there is awkwardness, loyalty issues, and as great as our church family is, there will always be at least a perceived judgement that the couple could have worked it out if they had tried harder. In our church, there have been situations where a spouse going through divorce is asked to step down from visible ministries – which can be an even harsher blow. There is a reason why God hates divorce – it has far reaching effects for the family, the extended family, and the church community.

]]> By: Chris Stonecipher http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49617 Chris Stonecipher Sun, 23 Nov 2008 05:16:57 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49617 Goodselfme, <br /> it is hard to put in words for what to say to a person who has gone thru this. God Bless you,<br /> Chris Goodselfme,
it is hard to put in words for what to say to a person who has gone thru this. God Bless you,
Chris

]]> By: goodselfme http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49615 goodselfme Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:38:22 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49615 I was a child of 8 when my parents got divorced. That was better for both ,because it was abusive, but left scars for my sister and I . I think divorce affects everyone who comes into the lives with a person who has experienced divorce. Thank you for this post. I was a child of 8 when my parents got divorced. That was better for both ,because it was abusive, but left scars for my sister and I . I think divorce affects everyone who comes into the lives with a person who has experienced divorce. Thank you for this post.

]]> By: Chris Stonecipher http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/comment-page-1/#comment-49613 Chris Stonecipher Thu, 13 Nov 2008 23:23:44 +0000 http://socyberty.com/psychology/divorce-life-stressors-and-the-aftermath/#comment-49613 My comment did not show up.<br /> Thanks Lauren and Virginia. I am sorry that both of you had to experience the affects of divorce. Blessings to both of you!<br /> Chris My comment did not show up.
Thanks Lauren and Virginia. I am sorry that both of you had to experience the affects of divorce. Blessings to both of you!
Chris

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