Don’t Get Your Signals Crossed: Read The Right Body Language

Communication between human beings is mostly non-verbal. This is according to top psychologists. Basically around two thirds is non-verbal. The way one stands or the way a woman flutters her lashes broadcasts messages to people you meet or are interested in.

Most body language is involuntary done unconsciously. An instinctive behavior or learned from watching other individuals. Even if you try to hide it the behavior still reveals what one is hiding within.

Understanding these signs may help one judge whether the man or woman you feel drawn to would or would not reject your overtures.

Our inner most thoughts and desires could trigger a chemical and emotional change in our body thus we respond on a physical level by altering posture, mannerisms and expressions. Responses could be subtle movements of the lips, mouth, eyes or even more obvious is the crossing of ones arms. These may be little gestures but when all put together like a puzzle reveals to the other person a clear image or picture of our inner most feelings.

Negative Signals

When either sitting or standing a round shouldered stance indicates that the person is ill at ease. This can be further reinforced by folded arms and knees.

When a woman sits with her legs entwined tightly and one foot is locked behind the calf of the leg with her hands placed on her lap, she is unconsciously saying that her “kitty” is off limits. She is unconsciously protecting her virtue.

A man signals rejection by completely turning away from the other person. In social situations it is advised to study the lower half of the torso since it is the one that indicates the real story. For example a man may have his head towards a woman engaging her in conversation totally looking interested and engrossed by what she is talking about but alas his legs and feet are pointing towards the exit this indicates that his thoughts are veering toward a hasty exit.

Both men and women use eye language to indicate rejection. Women often glance around a room as if looking for someone to save her from her current companion or for others to please join her in a group. These messages are known as cut-off signals. Rapid blinking indicates stress. Rapid glancing to and fro indicates unease.

In our society these days social conditioning makes it very difficult for people to be deliberately rude unless he or she does not mind being labeled as tactless. Even if we hate the person or situation to avoid insulting them we are sometimes forced to tell a “white lie”. This causes conflict between what we say and what we mean or really feel. Thus it is then reflected in the little gestures or body language that we do.