Feelings of a Child Who Sodomized

Of the many clients we have ever in sodomy as a child, they do the same thing as an adult. They repeated what they hate and regret in childhood childhood. Why is that, and what parents should do?

There are many negative feelings in the sodomy of a child. Anger against the perpetrator. Disappointed with parents who are unable to protect. They get angry because in most cases the perpetrator was a close relative. Arise feelings of fear about the future, feel ashamed, self-esteem collapses and a myriad of other negative feelings.Sometimes arise a feeling of disgust with myself, and like to blame yourself.

Because this issue was afraid to “disgrace” the family, then the child would prefer silence rather than tell. As a result, emotional suffering that he endured his own.Meanwhile, his experience in sodomy movie kept popping up in his head, without can be stopped. His hatred of the perpetrator, only made him often to remember the person.Because often to remember the perpetrator, instead he unwittingly mimics the perpetrator acts in adulthood. This is a “vicious circle”. Without the help of psychotherapy is difficult to overcome.

Suggestions, if parents see a change attitudes, emotions and behavior of children do not delay take counseling with a professional. If you find that the child recognizes the experience, do not be angry but instead treat it better. The child needs to be accepted as is. After all he is the victim. Parents have a part in this event. As a father or mother, need to add insight and empathy for the child can be a helper at home. Routine counseling is needed. NT negative emotions the child needs to be channeled, and she needed the feeling accepted and defended.

Finally, let us beware. Especially when entrust our children are still small. You should be well acquainted with the family or friend. Behavior sodomy difficult to detect. It could happen anytime. Be careful when giving a lift to stay on anyone. Get to know them well.Do not because it is still a relative is given a lift. Especially if you have to stay for a long time.

We had a bad experience about this. One day We gave a lift to a client who feels benighted man to go home by bus. He has a problem of sexual disorientation. He let us ride staying, and rooming with our nephew he was 26 yrs. That night our clients our tempting nephew, niece fortunately we dare to fight. The client was really embarrassed.Meanwhile nephew angry with us because of his experience unpleasant. But what the hell was happening when he slept that night with our children are still small?

Children are a heritage that we must keep in earnest. This special duty, and if we neglect to make us regret. Maybe it could be a lifetime of regret. Prevention is better not …?

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