Comments on: Five Danger Signals That Warn That You Are Being Manipulated

By: Sara

Sara — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 17:23:55 +0000

Me to, this is a great article. I went through the same thing, even to this day I still don’t know why I was being manipulated, I just was. Been after the truth ever since, but its hard because this situation was so bizarre. Lets just say I lived with this girl who I knew for about nine months and when I graduated from a trade school she offered me a place to stay because I had nowhere else to go. Well this is a long story and too bizarre to account for, but this girl very literally had about five or six guys at a time, some even in other states in which she would be able to get whole paychecks at a time what I didn’t get was that she could treat them like crap and yes she used her own family, sometimes as a sexual tool to get money and still treated them like crap, so much to the point that these guys would do anything, even family! Now of course I didn’t realize she was like this even after knowing her for nine months but it ended up to be a complete disaster and im still having a hard time with things. To make a long story short she ended up kicking me out on the streets, not only that she threw all my luggage out so I didn’t have any clothes, dvds nothing, it all got stolen because of her. Im still to this day homeless because of what she did, there are some other things I would like to say but her behavior was just so odd and bizarre and to the extreme of things that still to this day I just can’t figure it out what exactly she wanted from me but I know it was something. Anyways good article, still it raises more questions in me.

By: Cady

Cady — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 13:27:47 +0000

Mine is a bizarre case. The manipulator is my roommate at college, and she has it down to an art. Even her best friend knows she’s being manipulated and still stands up for her. Everyone is in love with her for some strange reason- even though she steals food, her guests destroy our apartment, and she is noisy as hell. After all is said and done in the morning, when she knows I’m prepared to ream on her for being inconsiderate, she feigns sweetness towards me and kisses my ass. Constantly trying to not get played is emotionally exhausting. With everyone wrapped around her finger, I feel like I must be wrong because I’m the only one who sees this.

By: SincerePeace

SincerePeace — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 00:07:44 +0000

Self-interest (id) is the biggest secret of all manipulators. Shallow minds are the most foolish. Desiring only words and actions for ego-gratification/material progress. Those are the worst signs of all. Manipulators are also conspirators. Selfish/pleasure seekers. Materialists are the main causers of social chaos and deciet. That’s what needs to be said the most. They will love any lie that gives pleasure. They don’t care about truth if it gives pain. They should be blocked the most even if they ignore profound minds. Choose wisely. Be at peace sincerely depite who wants to deceitfully. May G-d Help and be with the virtuous (truthful). G-d Bless with true peacefulness/life/contentment. true peace…

By: Huss

Huss — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 23:13:41 +0000

It seems you lack alot of information, all of the above that you have listed are ways an amateur manipulator would go about getting what she or he desires. True manipulator do not do petty things as giving gifts or so blatantly acting kind.

The secret of all manipulators is their knowledge of humanity.

By: S.S.

S.S. — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 16:51:16 +0000

After completing a Counseling class in May, I agree with Boundaries Baby. The book, Boundaries, is helpful in determining acceptable limits and this develops healthy relationships. We do not need to do things that others need to do for themselves which is a problem especially for people with co-dependency issues. As much as we want to believe that we are doing “good” those good thing are not healthy if they hinder others from learning how to deal handle heir problems. It stunts their growth. Parents become prime perpetrators of this offense as well as friends who just hate to see other suffer. They are not suffering, they are maturing. We were all once in their position and what did we do: we learned, we matured, we grew up! One respondants questioned if we were all manipulators to some degree; I say we are not, manipulation is an unhealthy form of relationship attachment. A healthy person respects themself and has positive regard for others.

By: Boundaries Baby

Boundaries Baby — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 15:08:11 +0000

Some would say that manipulators are there to refine us, I would only agree in that after going through such treachery one must look at their boundaries and reasons why we are so giving and available. I was raised by a master manipulator and master con artist, neither which have changed. Currently, I have realized that these manipulators are at every turn so how do we protect ourselves? Setting healthy boundaries, writing things down and talking to others can be effective assuming this person hasn’t infiltrated their minds as well. As for myself, I’ve had to take a good look at why I feel I should help others. In life there is a “norm” to live by so I ask myself, “Am I giving too much?” Our own insecurities or needs make us great targets for manipulators. I now am careful not to befriend someone too quickly. If I don’t help them, they’ll find someone else. I am still willing as I feel a human duty to be of help to others but this time with boundaries for both them and myself. There is a great book called Boundaries. It was very useful in helping me understand why the need for boundaries. They also have one for parents which is even better b/c it helps you see how and when these personality troubles begin.

By: trustno1

trustno1 — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 06:20:06 +0000

being manipulated by people is easy, i have. they were after money. they take everything from you even your life and there is nothing you can do about it. they go after the ones you care about because they know your weaknesses. they use that against you until they get what they want. after that they hopefully won\’t bother you again. i am glad i got away from the bad people that were trying to manipulate me. it is always the ones that you think are the ones you can trust, when it is actually the opposite. i asked for help it doesn’t make you a manipulator. people lie and you don’t realize it until after the fact.

By: jill

jill — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 17:18:56 +0000

im british living in egypt with a egyptian man… the arabs are the best at gettin what they want from foreigners.. they want visa and better life and will tell you anything to get it , they will even have a child to you, but mark my words once they get what they want, there off.. any foreign women is a idiot to get involved.. iv seen it time and time again…im gettin out soon and advice should be given to foreign women travelin to these countrys cos these men will con any women to get out….TAKE CARE!!!!

By: Julia

Julia — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:38:21 +0000

I have encountered a master manipulator myself not too long ago. I have to agree that good-hearted people get taken advantage of. I knew this man for only 5 months and already he was moving in, taking over and doing what he wanted, while I worked. He wanted me to buy a house ( I live in an apartment),and pay for almost everything as far as going out for dinner, etc. The day before he disappeared, I told him that I had a budget and that I wasn’t a millionaire, and some responsibility had to be taken in this relationship. I came home from work the next day and he was gone. I texted him to find out what happened, with no reply. It’s obvious, I was scammed and played by a manipulator. When the responsibility and boundries came to the surface, he knew that he could no longer take me for a ride. I am still hurting over this, but, I now know that him leaving was probably a favor.

By: Lisa doughan

Lisa doughan — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 01:18:23 +0000

This is a really good article i only wish i had read this sooner. I have had so many people in my life that have been manipulating me and as i am a kind hearted and naturally honest person i let them into my life no questions asked. My mother is the main culprit she will twist things to get what she wants and beleive me she always gets it, she uses my sister as a weapon. she asks me to babysit my sister and if i say no she will ban me from seeing her and become really hostile towards me. I cant win because i love my sister both of them and although one of them lives with me and is old enough to make her own decisions my younger sister is still a baby it is also exhausting and i now have no social life she has taken it away from me.I spent most of my childhood bringing up my sister even at 6 years old and now i am practically bringing up my other sister , i am the one with the motherly instincts i worry all the time and she will even say that i give my sister more love than she does. I have matured way beyond my years and not once have i had a thank you or a meaningful one. I know i am stuck because as long as my sister is here i will be which means i have no escape… I only hope that one day she will realise the damage she has caused all of her children